im crying omg lol ! never will be able to hear her sing "i want it now " without laughing now

Just watched that last night so your timing is perfect for that reference lol thank you for being understanding . You’ve helped me look at this in a different perspective so that I can do better in the future . I plan on being in a relationship with myself for a while so I can better understand “ME” before I go looking for a “WE”

Yea I agree I beat myself up for that once I realized it too ! I’ve recently started taking accountability for my part which is why I’m determined to make a change and not play the fool anymore

It’s a little easier since I’ve healed to start planning action and executing but the down time gave me plenty of time to think and realize a lot I wasn’t noticing before .

The woman she sold the idea of was the woman I wanted to but the woman she is in real life is far from that vision . I had to ask myself if I should stick around “help them grow “ but after all this time I see that’s not going to happen and in the process of me trying I’m getting my life ruined from the inside out .

I needed validation that I wasn’t being unfair with how I feel because in prior convos with her I get gaslit so much I mentally just leave the conversation as a whole but I’m awake now , thank you for being straight forward . I’ll be moving along without her very soon and focusing on rebuilding what I’ve lost in the process of this situationship

Definitely not another 5 years lol I’ve felt this end coming for a while now just didn’t want to accept it I guess which I take blame for being selectively stupid and blind to so many warnings . At least I learned a lot of lessons on what not to do next time around !

Your absolutely right ! I’ve been overlooking the big things in hope of small adjustments and that just doesn’t make sense . Working on a plan to move forward now ! Hoping everything goes good

If I’m being honest i guess it’s because I now know my gf was spoon fed ( now cut off by family except one cousin ) and if I dumped her she would be on the streets . I convinced myself once I healed I’d move on my own and help her move back home with her cousin to get life in order but now it seems her bad decisions are now about to ruin my chances of even moving on my own if I get an eviction due to her leaving prematurely . Got myself in a sticky trap trying to have hope :/