Y’all motherfuckers need to empathize. Dude said their marriage was in a bad place and he went and deliberately looked for shit. There are a million ways to mend that fence that doesn’t involve being a petty ass that steals her phone and snoops through it. That is some jealous ass teenage shit. Maybe it’s me, but if I suspect my wife is cheating I’m not snooping through her personal shit. All that does is make a bad situation worse. For OP because he found out some shit no husband would want to find out and for OPs wife because he violated her trust.

Who the fuck snoops through their wife’s phone? That’s probably the single most personal item any of us own so yes to me that is a clear violation of trust, but hey what would I know I’ve only been married for 6 years

Edit: to add, I’m not saying the use case of your spouse hands you their phone to look at something, I’m saying you take their phone without their knowledge and look through it. That’s some shit parents do to a kid, not what a trusting spouse should do to their partner.

I’d suggest marriage counseling if you don’t want to lose her. You crossed a line by looking in her phone which to me at least shows a lack of trust. Lots of fences to be mended and I wish you the best OP

I feel like if you buy an NSX, that is the only appropriate license plate