Adonis0

Adonis0 t1_ja9jxb1 wrote

I was in the same situation as you. How my wife and I got me to improve my perception is instead of just picking up after me, she’d grab me and point me to an area and ask what’s wrong here. You need to both go into this with a lot of humility to make it work.

That conscious checking is what you should be doing all the time, but initially getting help with figuring out where something needs attending to helps accelerate the process. It will initially take a little more effort on their part, but it will prevent them from shouldering the domestic burden for the rest of your relationship

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Adonis0 t1_j9j8ojp wrote

I found cutting out carbs for a bit solved this for me.

Your body has the ability to produce its own sugar from protein to stabilise your blood sugar levels. If you feed it a tonne of carbs it gets lazy, but then you have wonky blood sugar levels when you sleep and in the morning. Your energy also only lasts a short time around meals.

So cutting out carbs completely for a bit, at least for breakfast, helped me to stabilise my blood sugar levels because my body began to make its own again

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Adonis0 t1_j2d59br wrote

It’s perception

Your brain goes, I’m too hot right now but that will be fixed in a few moments so we’re going to make it feel fixed now so we don’t go overboard

If you only felt comfortable when everything was right you’d be stuck in a yo-yo of toss blankets off, get too cold, rug up, get too hot. So your brain makes it feel fine when you’ve done enough to fix it

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Adonis0 t1_j28gcrk wrote

Money is more like a communication tool than anything else, it communicates society’s value for your stuff allowing you a proportional access to society’s resources.

That problem of resource distribution does not disappear if you remove the communication method. That’s like saying the neighbours are arguing over the boundary line, if they were unable to speak they wouldn’t have a problem. The underlying issue of resource distribution would not be solved if they couldn’t communicate

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