You need to watch this video you stupid idiot.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8

Sleeping people cannot give consent to your sexual acts. I hope she presses charges.

Not sure how long it took to soften partner can't recall that. But generally it can take a few months.

Just asked my partner he says no it didnt hurt. At first would be uncomfortable but if he readjusted it was fine. He said it was more like a light tickle then anything.

The wire usually soften overtime and get wrapped up around the cervix (the gaps around it) so they usually stay out of the way. Hubby could feel mine poking at him for the first few months until they settled.

Honestly I am female and knew nothing about these until I got one. They tell you basic stuff in sex ed but most info was around the pill and condoms.