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poofanity t1_j9t32gm wrote

Reply to comment by technicalCoFounder in Ukraine faces a mental health crisis among soldiers and civilians alike by Sxzym

I’ve had a different experience but everyone’s experiences are different.

My Ukrainian born friend with family still in Kyiv, doesn’t really ever bring it up unless we do. His cousin (female and daughter) are here while their husband is fighting in ukraine. He still doesn’t really talk about it.

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SERN-contractor837 t1_j9vfjkc wrote

I'm about the same, I never talk about it with people who are not living here (apart from reddit obv). They'll never understand and it's hard to explain your state without either sounding like a dick or a whiny bitch.

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technicalCoFounder t1_j9t3r9j wrote

Ukrainian-born and Ukrainian “from Ukraine“ are very different things.

I’m also not “from” where I was born. Their mentality is almost alien to me, even though intellectually I can still understand it.

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poofanity t1_j9t3x8a wrote

Prewar he would spend months out of the year there every year.

He’s Ukrainian.

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technicalCoFounder t1_j9t44qt wrote

He may be Ukrainian, but is he “from Ukraine” or is he from wherever you’re from.

The human brain is plastic. We adopt the culture we integrate into, and very quickly at that.

I’m a person of several cultures, but I’m only “from” the one I fully integrated into, and it’s not the one I was born into.

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poofanity t1_j9t49c0 wrote

You’re completely wrong but okay.

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technicalCoFounder t1_j9t4j2l wrote

Ask your friend. When he’s in Ukraine, standing in line at the bank, does he feel like he’s from Ukraine?

I know when I stand in line at the bank in my birthplace, even though I speak the language and know the culture well, I feel quite alien there relative to the other people standing in line with me.

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