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Eagle_Arm t1_j210owq wrote

Reply to comment by thisoneisnotasbad in Balancing trespassers with being neighborly by c_l_who

But I live here now....why don't you accept me as if I was your old neighbor!?

I don't think people realize it's years or decades of trust being built between people that allowed that to occur.

Someone hunted this year on some land I have. They asked permission even though I have known them since I was a kid. The common courtesy thing to do. When year was over, they gave me a gift card for groceries.

Nothing crazy expensive and wouldn't be enough to fill a basket of groceries, but it wasn't expected or implied. More of a, "you fucker, you didn't have to do that." They also did the gift card trick because if it was money, it's easier to deny money even though it's exactly the same.

People expect all the benefits of a lifelong neighbor on move-in without building the relationship.

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c_l_who OP t1_j21aypk wrote

Exactly. The hunters have been hunting our land for decades and still ask for permission every year (sometimes they even share some meat with us! That is amazing!). The recreation people have never asked.

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