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[deleted] OP t1_j6lw0tm wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in TIFU By accidentally leaving me and my sisters cash out in the open by [deleted]

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[deleted] OP t1_j6lw3xe wrote

I couldn’t do that. Hate me, but I don’t believe in stealing. Even though I was stolen from the guilt would still kill me.

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feeltheslipstream t1_j6m0r5a wrote

We've already established this is not stealing. It's finding.

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darksaint590 t1_j6mm2vp wrote

Tactically reacquiring. It’s only stealing if you get caught.

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konichiwa-minna_san t1_j6lxzs3 wrote

You are right. No matter what others tell you here, YOU STAND BY YOUR PRINCIPLES. What you believe to be wrong is wrong and no amount of goading is going to make it alright. Your mom sounds like a narcissistic a**hole and your brother is spoilt by her. Don't go down to their level. If you are going to shut them out of your life two years later, you can at least know that you were always the good person and they deserve to be out of your life.

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[deleted] OP t1_j6ly45h wrote

Thanks for the advice

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UltimateGammer t1_j6meou7 wrote

Turning the other cheek just gets you another slap.

Go to the police and make a report.

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NattySocks t1_j6mp4pn wrote

Better yet, she can sue her brother and parents in small claims court. Victory over the $150 will feel so good when her parents refuse to help pay for college and kick them out at 18. It's way more important to keep it real.

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[deleted] OP t1_j6mejx0 wrote

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SlickHand t1_j6mi6f5 wrote

There's no need to resent them. And bugger the forgiveness and understanding. What's more to understand than her brother is a thieving piece of shit, her mum is a narcissist and her dad has no spine.

If she shuts those arseholes out of her life then she won't be thinking about them.

It should be said repeatedly forgiving toxic people is poisonous to oneself.

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RusstyDog t1_j6mnk2c wrote

Fuck that. You have no obligation to other people.

"Forgiveness" is the skeleton key abusers use to keep getting back in.

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Solidusfunk t1_j6mm447 wrote

Exactly, at the end of your days all you have are your principles.

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neutrino71 t1_j6m4kzu wrote

Being a citizen in a civilized society involves engagement in the social contract. Your brother and mother seem keen to return to pre-law anarchy of some kind. If finders are keepers where does it end? If she leaves her car keys out is the car now yours? Can you sell her silverware if she doesn't lock it up?

I do understand your desire to not rock the boat and your safest option is to begin planning for your exit from this environment. Unfortunately their are plenty more unscrupulous people who will not hesitate to take your things so be careful who you trust.

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SlickHand t1_j6mhm6e wrote

You're the better person for having exactly those morals.

It's pretty clear your family treat your sister and you like shit. Any chance either of you could work towards moving out together when you've got more money behind you?

About 10 years ago I knew of a young lady not much older than your sister who moved out and took her much younger sister with her because of similar circumstances. She worked hard to provide for the two of them, getting assistance from a foodbank and the Salvos and friends.

My own two older sisters constantly stole from me as a kid. One even got addicted to drugs and hocked the stuff she stole from me to feed the habit. I don't consider them family now. They never changed. Might have the same blood, but they're not family.

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Aether_Breeze t1_j6mg0vh wrote

Honestly, you are right.

Sitting on the Internet I would love to say you should find his console, sell it (as it is after all now yours) and use the money for the tickets.

Sadly, you are right. It is important to do the right thing and be better. It really sucks that not everyone is, but if everyone does wrong then the world will just get worse.

The best thing is to learn the lesson that there are horrible people and avoid them. I am just sad for you that these are your family and you can't get away from them yet, I hope one day you will find better people to spend your time and attention on.

But I would still recommend some revenge if you can, even is it doesn't go so far as a crime!

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RusstyDog t1_j6mn5ee wrote

Really though, it is not stealing if you only spend the amount they took.

That is "your" money.

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eileen404 t1_j6mh9gl wrote

She did establish the finders keepers rule. While plainly personal property isn't respected, this should be valid. However, with how the parents are, planning for that to blow up would be a good idea.

The parent's hypocrisy is amazing. I'm sorry. You're having to deal with this. Sadly the best advice I have is persevere in getting good grades and go to college and get a good career you can get a good job you can support yourself on and you'll have a good life. It will get better. I'm sorry you can't trust your family to not steal from you.

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