kdavis37 t1_j5pqeew wrote on January 24, 2023 at 6:35 PM

Reply to comment by whatevernameidk in TIFU My fiance[38m] posting on reddit and getting destroyed made me [28f] realize I’ve been with a psychopath by marriedtoapsychopath

How on Earth is "I'm a lesbian and don't want to be with men" followed by being manipulated for years worse? Because she told him repeatedly she's unhappy and wants to be with women?

wildrussy t1_j5ps617 wrote on January 24, 2023 at 6:46 PM

>"I'm a lesbian and don't want to be with men"

"But I want to stay with you, and I can't stand seeing you with other women. So I'm going to sleep around, but you stay loyal."

I think the guy might be slightly worse here, but keeping him on the hook while exploring her sexuality was pretty scummy.

I imagine that's what most are objecting to.

[deleted] t1_j5pudok wrote on January 24, 2023 at 6:59 PM

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Mogioeki t1_j5q7en3 wrote on January 24, 2023 at 8:19 PM

In his story he said he got her to agree to stay. So it was more like she didn't want to hurt him, so she made a choice she thought would work for him, because it was his idea. Then he found out it didn't work for him. Clarified if it was a two way street, and then hurt her on purpose by paying someone to have sex with him. Guy is worse, but not a psychopath. Just doesn't know how to communicate and makes very poor choices to get his point across.

random8002 t1_j5s37pn wrote on January 25, 2023 at 4:03 AM

.... she couldve just left with christina if thats what she really wanted??

CentralAdmin t1_j5sbt2i wrote on January 25, 2023 at 5:20 AM

Bingo. Why are some posters going to extreme lengths to remove all accountability and agency from someone who could have said no and moved in with the person she actually wanted?

What did she expect would happen?

Flip the genders and think if a wife sleeping with other men while her husband fucks his boyfriend would be met with as much ire, or if people would be implying the husband did her a favour by staying with her so as not to hurt her feelings.

TheDevilsJoy t1_j5wa2x2 wrote on January 26, 2023 at 12:24 AM

When did she say “I am unhappy and want to be with women.”? She said she wanted to explore with Christina but didn’t want to break up… explain please