TIFU by asking my friend out

Submitted by TIFOOMERANG t3_10h89dr in tifu

So yesterday I sent a message on Snapchat to one of my best friends if she wanted to go do something after school/in the weekend (I wasn't really precise). She wasn't sure what to do, so I suggested McDonalds or Burger King (I didn't really care, I just wanted to hang out with her) and she said she had a very busy schedule. I thought she didn't want to, since that is my go-to excuse if someone asks me and I don't want to. So I told her "it's okay if you don't want to". Then she told me to "Calm down, I want to, I just don't know when". I wasn't really sure wether I had angered her, so I told her "oh, alright" and left her alone just in case. Today I messaged her again and asked her if she was angry with me yesterday. She didn't respond. I really don't want to lose this friendship ;-;

TL;DR: Asked a girl friend out for McDonalds, she might've gotten upset after I said "it's okay if you don't want to" and she hasn't answered any recent messages.

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BigDirtyNewports t1_j57573k wrote

Don’t overthink it, she’s probably just busy like she said. It would make no sense for her to be angry with you.

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TIFOOMERANG OP t1_j575xw5 wrote

Thats what I thought in the beginning too, but I'm mildly autistic so I'm often told by family that most people think different than me so for all I know people could get upset over stuff like that idk

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ThePresidentsNipples t1_j577wqp wrote

Welp honestly these kind of situations are difficult for even non divergent types so you're doing fine. Worse comes to worse you tanked your friendship but it happens to everyone. It sucks but don't pester or fixate it will only make things worse

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TIFOOMERANG OP t1_j579inq wrote

>these kind of situations are difficult for even non divergent types so you're doing fine

That's actually kind of reassuring in a way. Phew.

>It sucks but don't pester or fixate it will only make things worse

Yeah you're right. I usually walk her + another friend to school every morning, I will ask her then in real life (since through text it's a bit harder to convey certain messages than through just talking). If she was genuinely angry, I'll just let her be.

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BigDirtyNewports t1_j57aa2v wrote

If whatever you said made her mad enough to tank the friendship like u/ThePresidentsNipples said, then she probably wasn’t really a good friend in the first place and it wasn’t meant to be. I feel like I should add that ThePresidentsNipples is a badass name.

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TIFOOMERANG OP t1_j57awmo wrote

>then she probably wasn’t really a good friend in the first place and it wasn’t meant to be

Yeah, probably.

>I feel like I should add that ThePresidentsNipples is a badass name.

Ikr it kicks ass!

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SunChipMan t1_j57c0jo wrote

Is that really all you said?

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TIFOOMERANG OP t1_j57d0pb wrote

That's literally everything. I immediately freaked out and decided to wait until today to say anything else.

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scr0tal t1_j58e8bb wrote

Bro if she said what you said she said. Just wait for her to message you

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TIFOOMERANG OP t1_j597up9 wrote

Yeah, that's what I'm currently doing lol

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scr0tal t1_j5a9col wrote

Good luck my friend. Hurry up and wait as I love to say. Haha

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TIFOOMERANG OP t1_j5ag9hg wrote

Ok I'll wait faster hahaha

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gdoge7361 t1_j5gs79y wrote

just found this post hope she does agree to go out with you and it goes well. i'm also autistic and to an extent have been in a situation that is to an extent similar coz i fucked in it to an extent. the possible fuck up was that the friend i liked went to a different college than me and i went to a college i didn't want to which wasn't near the college of the friend i liked. what makes my situation annoying is i could of got with her if i went to the college i wanted to go to but my dad told me to go to "an appointment at the college i didn't want to go to enroll there" and i got enrolled there. and a couple weeks at the college i decided to get the friend i liked and a friend of ours a christmas present and when the day came and i got them their presents and get home our friend told me that she was speaking to someone else and i felt as if i was used. and i thought at somepoint of the week i'll give her present to a girl at the college i had a crush on. but i decided not to. and a month after giving her the presents ( forgot mention got her birthday is after christmas) i'm still friends with her but i believe i could never like her the way i did before because she lied to me a week or 2 before i got her the present. ( at the time i didn't know.) i only see her as just a friend but someone i have trouble having trust in. i sorta believe that she never even loved me the way i loved her. and she only found out coz i trusted someone with my crush on her as a secret. theres multiple pieces of evidence that believe show that she didn't love me but i won't discuss them. but anyway hope the outcome for the situation your in goes the way you want it to.

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TIFOOMERANG OP t1_j5juy8p wrote

Oh damn that sucks! Do you guys still have contact or no?

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gdoge7361 t1_j60x6h2 wrote

yeah were still friends but i don't hold a grudge against her although she lied to me. happy cake day.

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