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BitchInBoots66 t1_j3vwcn0 wrote

The problem lies with you thinking that they're your friends, because they're not.

They've been dropping hints that they don't want to spend time with you, but I think they're trying not to hurt your feelings. Unfortunately you haven't picked up on the hints.

You cannot force friendship. For a friendship to work both parties need to want it to, and they clearly don't.

You need to stop contacting them. Be polite if you bump into them or are in a group chat but don't chase them. Apologise for getting stroppy with them. They didn't do anything wrong IMO.

You also should start looking for new friends. Maybe ones that seem happy /excited to spend time with you.

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pseudo44 OP t1_j3vy4o5 wrote

If only someone would look happy/excited when is with me...

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ButterMyMuffin t1_j3w01h4 wrote

This is not the way to think mydude. You got to be comfortable with yourself and these feelings will move on. I’ve been through the same stuff, it hurts a lot. It happened to me a couple of months ago but now things are much better now, keep the hope that things will improve and you will look back at this and smile at the changes that have come about.

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pseudo44 OP t1_j3wc4i3 wrote

I'll try, and thank you for your words

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BitchInBoots66 t1_j3w097i wrote

That's something you can work on. Develop or broaden your interests/hobbies/schooling etc, anything you love to talk about, then find people who want to share that with you.

Also, things like smiling and eye contact. Always asking questions and taking a keen interest in other people. Being a good listener. There's lots of things you can work on if you think people don't want to spend time with you.

But, it could easily be a case of the wrong people. Not everyone gets on. And even among those who do, not everyone is a good fit friend wise. There are many people that I like as people but we would never work as friends.

Good luck op.

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pseudo44 OP t1_j3wceqo wrote

Well actually I already do all those things, but in my school there is no one who shares my interests

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TheRealTwiner t1_j3waypu wrote

"If you're not you, you may get more friends"

Top notch advice here bub.

All you're saying here is that op is not good enough, and that is a shit take.

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Squigglepig52 t1_j3wn5ge wrote

Well, except for the part where they said it could just be the other people not being the right kind of people.

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