>But I feel like my father resents me

If I was to be extremely, undeservedly charitable, I'd say he perhaps thinks you responsible for his wife's death and treats you accordingly (as irrational and unjustified as that is). Considering how misogynistic he is though, it's more likely he just resents that you can't fully replace the bangmaid he lost.

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>Yes I’ve considered running away, but, as much as I hate them, I don’t think I could actually stand being alone.

I'm not sure what your options are -- and I certainly wouldn't advocate being homeless -- but in my experience, it is far better to be alone than around people who make you wish you were. Stay safe.