Move on. Everything dies. Now, say, you accidentally ran over his dog and asked that question? THAT would make you an insensitive prick.

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I think you're right. He won't hold a grudge or something. Still could've user a different tone. He was already old an sick. I knew that. A little thinking before opening my mouth would have at least made me use a different tone or wording.

Yeah I know there are really big fuckups in this subreddit 😅 this is nothing compared to them. And it’s true we all really loved that dog. The tru proof you don’t need a young puppy to have other people find it cute

It's not really a fuck up, you had no way of knowing.

Also, if he brought his dog in that much and everybody liked said dog, it would have been a good idea to share that information in a comfortable way for him to avoid conversations like that. You’re not in the wrong here. That being said maybe if you find yourself in this weird scenario again try “hey it’s been a while since we’ve seen dog, is everything ok?”

I don't think this is a FU, he is obviously mourning his loss, but you asking after it might have made for some awkward silence, but it also showed you noticed and gave you a chance to tell him you're sorry about his dog. no harm done

Maybe give him a card or if you guys ever took pics of the dog frame one and give it to him…I dint see a tifu here, you’re good.

You didn't know. He probably knows this as well. You weren't using it in a aggressive way. It'll be fine, he just needs some time

Don't feel bad. I once asked someone I hadn't seen in several years how her husband's doing at a table of six and apparently everyone else at the table had been to his funeral six months ago.

At the end of the day, it's not like you knew so eh.

I feel your pain. I took a call from a coworker I had not spoken to in awhile (we were moved to different locations) and asked about her baby, which she had delivered a few months before. She said, "oh, you didn't know, my baby died." I wanted to puke. I am now very hesitant to ask about anyone's babies now.

It probably isn't a bad thing, though, that he knows you liked and missed his pupper.

TIFU by forgetting that I ran over my co-workers dog.

As someone who lost theirs recently, it’s ok. You may have brought up some heartache but it’s nice to see others think of doggo too.

You probably helped him more than he (or you) realise.

This may have been the first time he's mentioned it at work, It's very hard to start healing if you bottle everything up and pretend nothings changed.

It also goes to show that you care. You asked about the dog you haven't seen in a while. You wouldn't have asked if you didn't care.

Don't feel bad.

You have a dog. Occasionally you bring the dog to work. The dog dies.

Nobody says anything. Eventually, one coworker asks.

This is the first time anyone has acknowledged that your dog is gone. Naturally, you tear up, but I imagine you’re also massively warmed to think that your dog was loved enough in the office that people notice it’s missing and inquire.

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Don’t beat yourself up. You couldn’t have known.

I would appreciate it that someone remembers my dog - 0 fuck up in my eyes

No TIFU here man.

Honestly you couldn't have known.

If it's still bugging ya tomorrow, there's nothing wrong with ya going up to the coworker and just apologize for bringing it up. You felt like shit all day, and sure you couldn't have known but having lost a pet you know the hurt, and your sorry for his / her loss.

Let him know how much you loved seeing the dog and that you miss it, and that you understand how upset he must be.

Several months after my father died, I ran into someone we'd known for nearly 40 years, who asked how my parents were. Somehow, he hadn't heard that my father had died (which was actually rather surprising, because it was a pretty big deal in our community; his funeral was absolutely packed). I'm sure he felt terrible about it, but honestly, I felt terrible for him, and not at all for myself. I mean, it's not like I'd forgotten he had died, and frankly, it's nice to know that people continue to remember him fondly – and while I know that, if I'd been in his shoes, I'd have been absolutely mortified, I really didn’t want him to feel bad. I'm sure it's the same for OP's co-worker.

I mean you might have assumed. But its not like he said anything prior. Could have been half a dozen reasons.it wasn't there

Oh man, my mom's cousin Charlie once asked her how her son/my brother was doing over dinner (the person in question had died dramatically, and traumatically for everyone involved, about 10ish years prior, while Charlie was still in China). After we made sure he was genuinely asking about my brother, my dad piped up with "oh... You know... Still dead". Charlie just about had a heart attack.

Big dogs don't live long. Nothing to see here

Maybe I'll get shot down for this but see if you can find a little something that looks similar to the dog. Little fluffy toy or something. Pay $10 or $20 or something and tell your co-worker that you missed the little guy too and thought maybe he could stay here in the office with him forever in spirit. Shows you care about your co-worker too.