TIFU by introducing my family to death note

Submitted by Mission-Handle-9033 t3_10pd2gc in tifu

So, this happened last night, but the fallout came today. Last night, my family (my two parents and sister (22f)) were browsing TV for something to watch. I’ve been watching the show death note, recently, and have gotten really into it, despite not being too into anime. I suggested we watch the first episode, thinking my parents might enjoy the plot. I skipped the theme song, knowing my dad would find it irritating. I explained a couple plot points at my dad’s request. Anyway, we watched it, my parents mostly enjoyed it, and that was that. Today, my sister started saying that our parents shouldn’t watch it, because she didn’t like skipping the theme songs, because it wasn’t watching it properly, and that I ruined the entire episode by talking during it. I told her that mom and dad liked it though. She went on to aggressively tell me that she’d had it on her watchlist for way longer than I’d been watching it for, and to stop treating it like it was my thing. This devolved into her yelling and swearing at my mom and I, saying she was going to watch the whole series in the next two days, so that my parents wouldn’t be ahead of her in an anime. It got so loud my dad, who works from home, came storming out of his office to see what the commotion was. She kept giving me dirty looks as she left for school.

TL;DR Watched an episode of death note with my parents, and caused total chaos within my family.

Edit: I just wanted to say thanks to everyone in the comments for being kind and supportive about the situation, since I can’t respond to everyone.

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Meg678 t1_j6jouqs wrote

By the sounds of it you mean watched an episode of death note with your parents and your sister caused total chaos

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Darkassassin07 t1_j6jt02f wrote

Not your fault your sister is a psychopath...

She's 22? Sounds more like a 12 year old.

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SunChipMan t1_j6juem1 wrote

So your sister is a child. Carry on.

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Wiretaps t1_j6jv2ao wrote

Your sis likes drama. Do not engage, do not make eye contact.

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Mission-Handle-9033 OP t1_j6jv9c6 wrote

Replying to SunChipMan (#1,628,231)

Honestly, I’m pretty sure that’s the case with her. I’m not posting to trash on her, I’m just a bit exhausted and figured random strangers on the internet were better than anyone with any connection to her.

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ErinBLAMovich t1_j6jw7yy wrote

Wow, your sis is a selfish asshole. Your parents should kick her entitled ass out after she finishes college.

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UzoicTondo t1_j6jyc78 wrote

Replying to Mission-Handle-9033 (#1,628,379)

Have you talked to your parents about getting her mental help?

My friend's little brother was diagnosed bipolar 4 years ago but didn't like his meds. He finally went back to therapy last year and they prescribed him other meds which he's actually been staying on. The first meds had side effects but these new ones have almost none, and he says he feels normal now. He's even holding down a job finally.

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Mission-Handle-9033 OP t1_j6jze6x wrote

Replying to UzoicTondo (#1,629,113)

Unfortunately, she doesn’t listen to our parents at all. I’m 19, and the only person she sometimes listens to, or at least calls when she needs advice for something. I’ve been trying to talk to her about getting therapy, and she’s more or less agreed, but with several stipulations, like it has to be a man, and it has to be in person, that are difficult to work around with insurance. My mom has been struggling with her heart recently, so I moved back home to be the buffer between her and my sister essentially.

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Conscious-Mix3585 t1_j6k2x7z wrote

Lol tell your sister to stop being such a competitive weeb or you'll spoil the ending for her , which you can just be bluffing about it or actually look it up and tell her if she continues . Or ask me since I already know the ending lol

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raz0rflea t1_j6k3s3i wrote

In all honesty, you shouldn't have to be exhausted at 19 putting up with an older sibling's tantrums. She might have mental health issues so I'm not judging her but whether she does or not, it's not fair that your parents have let her get away with acting like this without addressing it. I mean I assume this behaviour hasn't come out of nowhere from the way you talk about how you feel like you should have anticipated it.

If you have the option, it might be worth talking to a counsellor yourself just to get an outside perspective on things and maybe some practical advice on how to manage this situation. It's fucked that you need to anticipate whether any little thing you do is gonna unleash world war 3 at home constantly, and it's a drain on your own mental health that you don't need.

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Riderrod77 t1_j6k5rxu wrote

u dont think your dad would like the theme song? just wait until episode 20

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Mission-Handle-9033 OP t1_j6k7s8l wrote

Replying to raz0rflea (#1,630,390)

It’s kind of always been like this. I do see a therapist, and take antidepressants/anti anxiety meds, which helps a lot. It’s sort of just the way things shake out, when you throw in the fact that my mom’s sick and exhausted herself. I’d moved out, but after she was hospitalized she begged me to come back to help manage everything. It still doesn’t feel fair sometimes though, and I really appreciate the empathetic words 💙

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Ne0guri t1_j6k8md1 wrote

Tell you sister to stop being a total weeb

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cld1984 t1_j6kd81j wrote

This is one of the most bizarre things I’ve read this month

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mxrsta t1_j6kdk4r wrote

How she not seen death note yet?

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lrw1951 t1_j6kes5t wrote

What the heck is “Death Note”

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Milnoc t1_j6kheap wrote

Replying to lrw1951 (#1,633,054)

A boy find a notebook titled "Death Note." If you write someone's name in it, they die from a heart attack after a few seconds. If you write someone's name and add exactly when and how they must die, that's exactly when and how they'll die.

Things get a bit complicated from there.

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averioste t1_j6khkku wrote

Tell your sister to quit gatekeeping. You're allowed to like anime too.

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1AJ t1_j6km7ju wrote

Not defending the sister here, but if you talk during an episode then you're ruining it.

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Scratchy-cat t1_j6kn8a1 wrote

Not sure your parents will like it for to long, you should also watch the live action films if you can find them they are very good I prefer them over the anime, (im sad and have seen all of them and have all the books). Anyway, your sister needs to grow up, if she doesn't like it, she is, I assume, able to watch it on her own another time

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AcrobaticSource3 t1_j6kp7kh wrote

You have good taste in anime for someone who doesn’t watch it much!

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sorryboutmyfeece t1_j6kx2fv wrote

The watchlist thing is a bit much. Are you supposed to run every show you ever want to watch because she might have it on her watch list way longer than you've decided to fire a new series up‽

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salaciousseagull t1_j6kx8mb wrote

Not a FU. You’re just genetically related to a narcissist.

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raz0rflea t1_j6l4pf0 wrote

Replying to Mission-Handle-9033 (#1,631,326)

I am glad you're doing what you can to look after yourself! I had a aimilar situation with my older brother who we all had to walk on eggshells around and be ready to do whatever he wanted to keep him calm, and it isn't fair and it is really exhausting so I feel ya!

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Mission-Handle-9033 OP t1_j6l63xy wrote

Replying to raz0rflea (#1,640,189)

Thank you, it’s really nice and rare to find someone who can sympathize. It’s a really terrible dynamic when everyone KNOWS the behavior is not normal/acceptable, but you’re all much too tired to really fight them on it anymore. Most people don’t really believe me when I talk about my experiences with her, especially from when I was younger. I’m sorry you had to experience that, but again, I appreciate the empathy, and hope that your situation is either already improved or improves soon.

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Celtavigo30 t1_j6l777q wrote

She’s about to write your name down… you know it, …right?

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Shmauzow t1_j6l9u87 wrote

Unbelievably immature for a 22 year old. She needs to grow up

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lordkimochi t1_j6la9xx wrote

you're a good and filial child, your sister is a spoilt brat and a horrible person. I don't care what mental illness she has, it's not excuse for that kind of behaviour, and she needs to learn that it is not acceptable. Selfishness and being a total b are not symptoms of any mental illnesses.

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mischievouslyacat t1_j6lcs37 wrote

Replying to Mission-Handle-9033 (#1,638,871)

Listen, your sister's drama is not a conflict created by you. You liked something and wanted to bond with your family over the same thing. That is wholesome and there's nothing wrong with that. It's not up to you to keep your sister's personality in check

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AdvonKoulthar t1_j6lee77 wrote

Lmao, brat of a sister. I’m glad any of siblings got into anime at all, even if it’s just a bit. At least your parents can watch it with you and be normal about it

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Commercial_Ad332 t1_j6let6l wrote

There are way worse fuck ups. Don't beat yourself up and try to talk it out with your sister, get to the bottom of why she is so upset. You'll be fine OP.

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Das_Gruber t1_j6lg5lh wrote

Damn, first time I've read about an instance of Anime gate-keeping within a family.

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unBorked t1_j6lh7rr wrote

Replying to Mission-Handle-9033 (#1,627,331)

You can never be too young to learn this: You are NOT responsible for anyone else’s actions or reactions. Sounds like your sibling needs some in depth professional help before she becomes an irreparably horrid person.

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Salindurthas t1_j6ljwa2 wrote

Your sister is aboslutely allowed to watch it herself in her own time, and now watch it with the family. If she wants to watch it herself because she prefers to watch it in silence and to watch the intro, that's fine too.

It's also totally fine for her to share that opinion with the family.

If you and your parents prefer skipping the intro and to discuss it to explain things while it is on, that's fine too.

But your sister is rude to raise her voice or get annoyed at the rest of you watching it differently.

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Bossanova87 t1_j6lohzh wrote

Your sister sounds like a fucking child. 22 going on 12.

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ripmeck t1_j6lpdqj wrote

Take the book. You know what to do

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RagingOrgyNuns t1_j6lvtd4 wrote

Time to crosspost to r/amItheasshole where everyone will tell you your sister is the asshole.

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Sparrowsabre7 t1_j6lxeyx wrote

My parents liked Death Note too. They love crime stuff and whodunnits so I figured they would. It helps that aside from the shinigami and notebook it's a pretty grounded anime and lacks the more obnoxious anime tropes like fanservice and panty shots and doesn't have much in the way of weird or forced humour.

My Mum even yelled out "Noooo!" at one plot point early on.

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smyliest t1_j6lz3re wrote

Your tldr doesnt tell anything. I had to read it.

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LikeUmPlump t1_j6m5l8j wrote

I remember I got upset at my brother for watching Gurren Lagann after he kept stopping me from watching it. He binged it one night and told me how great it was. Still one of my favorites but boy was I pissed.

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JDMWeeb t1_j6mazbc wrote

Tried getting my fam into Death Note too

Dismissed it because they're anti weeb

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__Wasabi__ t1_j6md74v wrote

I mean if its been on her watch list for so long why did she not watch it? That's on her. It's been out for over a decade.

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PraiseThePun81 t1_j6mh3yk wrote

You didn't fuck anything up, your sister did, and it sounds like she needs to be on some kind of medication.

But I find it really cool your parents enjoyed Death Note.

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Joshawott27 t1_j6msbsb wrote

You didn’t do anything wrong. Your sister is overreacting by gatekeeping a damn TV show.

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Mission-Handle-9033 OP t1_j6n2mjd wrote

Replying to JDMWeeb (#1,652,650)

Sad 😔 I don’t really enjoy certain aspects of anime, but I’m never one to dismiss a great story/concept just because of the format in which it’s told. Like people who dismiss all animation as “for kids” 🙄

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