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-Chris-V- t1_j1drv4e wrote

Reply to comment by thisisfakereality in TIFU by sleeping with a friend. And I mean just sleeping by PassengerNumerous607

Her options are essentially to give herself a pass and adhere to 20 years ago standards when it's HER who is making advanced without consent, or hold herself to the same standards she would hold a man to today.

If nothing else, I hope it's an opportunity for her to reflect on the past and current definitions of consent and introspect a bit on how well her actual values and actions align with modern or past values.

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thisisfakereality t1_j1e83tc wrote

This is exactly what I’m talking about - this complete bs. She did nothing wrong. If she had as much as kissed him, I might tend to agree. “Cuddling,” especially when they’ve done it before, is literally nothing, and doesn’t require reflection.

If anything in this story requires reflection, it’s the amount of alcohol each person induced.

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PassengerNumerous607 OP t1_j1dzag1 wrote

Hi, yes that’s what I find troubling and question about this situation. Thank you for pointing out what I was trying to gauge with this post, rather than other commenters who are like “just fuck already”

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