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Reddit-username_here t1_j1dfl19 wrote

Reply to comment by plaaplaaplaaplaa in TIFU by sleeping with a friend. And I mean just sleeping by PassengerNumerous607

>So a woman woke up at morning having her co-worker and really close friend in her bed cudling her after a night full of consensual flirting and touching and she doesn’t even remember inviting him to the bed

No. No boundaries were crossed.

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PassengerNumerous607 OP t1_j1dkdzl wrote

If the roles were reversed, I’d feel like a boundary was crossed, I think that’s probably why I’m a bit freaked out and feeling guilty

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Reddit-username_here t1_j1dm4bd wrote

No boundaries were crossed either way. No one was raped. Just two drunk friends of different sexes doing what drunk people of different sexes have been doing for millennia.

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plaaplaaplaaplaa t1_j1dmjfg wrote

You have very weird thoughts about boundaries? No rape? Ah, so fondling the boobs is also not crossing boundaries with your fucking logic..

Edit: Definition of a boundary is that someones personal space was violated in a way he/she was not concenting.

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Reddit-username_here t1_j1drdqf wrote

No it wouldn't have been. They were rubbing on each other all night and it seems she would've been receptive to some boob fondling.

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plaaplaaplaaplaa t1_j1dvth9 wrote

Gender bias is strong with this one. This man’s space was clearly violated even if you read the whole story. You need to understand that the story in itself clearly shows that he felt uncomfortable. Probably no damage was done and they may end up together. But do not think that there was no crossings of boundaries here.

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PassengerNumerous607 OP t1_j1dyz0u wrote

You guys are at either end of the spectrum. There is fluidity with physical touch when it comes to consent, it’s part of the reason I posted this. I can’t figure my way out of the gray area. The OG commenter was right in that it seemed relatively mutual at surface level, you’re right in that there is a gender bias and the comment section may be different if roles were reversed.

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Noidremained t1_j1dq1i4 wrote

you can feel like your boundaries were crossed even though you were less drunk than him

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