Submitted by PassengerNumerous607 t3_ztcsou in tifu
crazyhopelessguy t1_j1d7265 wrote
I hope you get together. Those cheesy hallmark movies are my dirty little seceret and this sounds kinda like one!
Honestly though if you work well together why don't you date? Imagine the rent you would save if you lived together. Having a built in DD is really nice. If you work together you would save on gas. Also imagine all the movie watching you could do. Movie watching alone is ok but it's better with someone else.
You would have someone who couldn't just leave when you told a bad joke or had a really stinky fact. He could make you soup when your sick.
Saying all that you should just get married already! Lol
Critical-Echo-923 t1_j1d8w38 wrote
its like: if you come to reddit with this kind of stuff then expect people to want you to hook up
PassengerNumerous607 OP t1_j1dynz2 wrote
Lmao see: this entire comment section
crazyhopelessguy t1_j1ekpjc wrote
I need closure on how you're meeting with him went!
PassengerNumerous607 OP t1_j1eksrb wrote
In my car rn, he hasn’t brought anything up yet
crazyhopelessguy t1_j1el1ih wrote
Why don't you bring it up. It's not traditional for the woman to kinda start the relationship but it would make a better movie, lol.
PassengerNumerous607 OP t1_j1elihv wrote
I normally would but I’m the one who initiated the initial conversation and he was pretty caught off guard so I’m going to let him open up when he’s comfortable. We’re on our way to the dump to empty my pickup
crazyhopelessguy t1_j1elnr9 wrote
A girl with a pick up! Marriage material!
crazyhopelessguy t1_j1eltj2 wrote
Do you like him in a more then platonic kinda way?
PassengerNumerous607 OP t1_j1f2ifc wrote
I have no clue. I updated in a comment above, you’ll see it’s a wall of text but basically pretty anticlimactic
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-Chris-V- t1_j1dqzzf wrote
If she were the guy in this situation, it wouldn't be discussed as if it were a Hallmark movie.
crazyhopelessguy t1_j1dxujk wrote
Not necessarily. There are guys out there that respect boundaries. It's hard when all you read here are stories of how guys take advantage of women.
-Chris-V- t1_j1dyyyo wrote
I 100% agree that not all guys are jerks and that it's completely possible for a person of any gender to be good or evil. But, the jury of reddit would deliver swift judgement to a guy in the same situation.
crazyhopelessguy t1_j1dzuk6 wrote
There is a double standard for sure.
PassengerNumerous607 OP t1_j1dypjc wrote
That’s my thoughts. I’m worried I crossed a line
-Chris-V- t1_j1e0g4t wrote
I feel like maybe this situation could be an opportunity to think carefully about where the line actually is. You have had a new experience and we all revise our perspectives when we gain experience. I used to think this was growing up, but now I realize it's just how life works.
Of course you were not evil. But it would be pretty miserable for you to not grow from this, and learn that situations like this one are extremely nuanced and not at all as black and white as people insist that they are.
A commenter below pointed out that 20 years ago this would not even be a discussion. That was obviously a problem back then. The pendulum has swung the other way. Perhaps if there were a middle ground things would be better for everyone.
You crossed a line if you decide that, even with new information, you are holding firm on the position of the line.
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