Uhm maybe I am anxious (ok, not “maybe”, I AM) but when I send something to my parents I’m like “on this day you’ll receive this thing and you have to put it there/you have to do this with that”. No free choice, no free will, I make it clear if it’s a gift (“do not open until -“) or if it’s something they need now or if it’s something I need and so it has to be opened and put in that room until I come to collect it