So… you left an abusive marriage to protect your kids, you coped with daughter’s behavior problems in a loving way, followed experts recommendation for therapy for her and helped her be consistent in going. Now you find out she might have a mental illness that is known to run in families. A disorder that does run in her family. And you have done all this while she is still a young child. And you’re a 25 year old, which is kind of still a kid to me. Where in the world can you possibly find a fuck up in this situation? You have not only NOT fucked up, but are in actuality doing a goddamn awesome job. The most important thing is that she knows you love her and are on her side. You’ve shown her this her whole life. They say having a child is like having your heart walk around outside your body. When they hurt, it’s agonizing for us too. Don’t let perfect get in the way of good. You’re doing an amazing job, mamma. Truly.