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lemon_peppah_wings t1_j2c29l5 wrote

I'm sorry this happened to you!

When my friends and I were in the dating scene we would: -share screenshot of the person's profile/pic(s)

  • share location
  • send a text when we changed locations or were how safe

We would even offer to call after a certain time which would give the other person an excuse to bounce.

Maybe we took too many precautions but dating can be scary. You don't know who is kind vs a predator.

I'm glad you met up in a public place tho! I see too many stories of people meeting at their homes.

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kn1ghtcliffe t1_j2clq9k wrote

I hooked up with a poly girl who had a friend call twice while she was over, and she even had code phrases set up, one she specifically needed to say in order to discreetly let her friend know everything was going okay and not saying it would initiate a rescue mission. She even let me know beforehand that if she failed to answer the phone (which she was slightly worried about due to the expected kinky sexytimes) when her friend called they would be coming to break down my door lol. Seemed like a very good system to me.

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lemon_peppah_wings t1_j2f27k4 wrote

LOL right! Ya almost gotta prepare like a secret spy mission haha

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kn1ghtcliffe t1_j2f556p wrote

It's terrible that people feel the need to take such measures to feel/stay safe but I understand why they do so I never begrudge them for it. I just go into a date expecting her best friend to know my name, face, and address; or wherever it is that we happen to be meeting. And while I find people spending time on their phone during a date to be annoying, for all I know she's updating her friend on her continued safety so I don't make a deal of it.

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