TIFU for texting my ex merry Christmas

Submitted by tiredofmyfeelings t3_zwc2wj in tifu

I dont know what I was thinking. I told her merry Christmas, we started texting, we were drunk, and we started telling each other good things. We talked that we were attracted to each other, and wanted to have sex jokingly.

We had a three month relationship one year ago, but for some reason i am still attached.

After a bit more texting and a two days later we started getting serious about the idea of meeting up to have sex. She hasn't had sex with anyone because she can't, and I have but haven't enjoyed it.

When talking i wanted to be honest with my expectations with her and told her that it was cool to meet up, and enjoy and see where things go.

She lives far away so we had to plan it. She, however wanted more of, we have sex and enjoy, and bye bye.

We decided to stop talking about the subject since we both had two different ideas, plans and expectations but I already received the damage. Fuck, she is hot and I want to bang, but i can't block my feelings out of it.

TL;DR: I talked with my ex to have sex, we didn't agree on the conditions and now I feel bad

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HikerTom t1_j1tuyzw wrote

She can't have sex? But she'll have sex with you?... what?

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tiredofmyfeelings OP t1_j1tv2iv wrote

Yeah, she can with me because she is already comfortable and we know each other. It was difficult at the start because she had mental breakdowns, until she was comfortable enough to do it. It was also erasmus, so easier to do this things

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HikerTom t1_j1tz0ks wrote

Oh gotcha.

Well yeah from the other comment about her cheating I'd say you should move on.

I've been in your shoes before so I know it's tough. But it's for the best for sure.

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tiredofmyfeelings OP t1_j1tz33z wrote

It's for the best for sure, i need to

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AjahnAnarchy t1_j1vj5t5 wrote

Oh, nevermind.

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tiredofmyfeelings OP t1_j1vjlaz wrote

I've seen now three of your comments, with three different opinions, which one is it? XD

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AjahnAnarchy t1_j1vm3n4 wrote

I think you should play your cards right and give her what she wants, cause that’s at least part of what you want and then get over it remembering that it doesn’t matter if you had sex.

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tiredofmyfeelings OP t1_j1vprj6 wrote

I dont think its a good idea. It took me one year to more or less not think about her everyday. She cheated on me during the small three month relationship, and to hook up we need to plan it (she lives far enough) i know that at one point or another we will meet again (common friends) so i will probably use that time, if I still want to hook up, to do it. If I did it now with those conditions it would only fuck me over more, and make it too hard for anything further to happen. Even harder for me to move on.

She has something that makes it way harder for me to move, it's actually my first love so it's not easy for me to move on from everything that was so important

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AjahnAnarchy t1_j1vizyb wrote

So suck it tf up and lie. Tell her you aren’t looking for anything serious and that’s why you texted her on Christmas. Tell her you were worried she would think you were a creep if you said you just wanted to hook up though.

No one wants to look like they’re looking for commitment and no one is willing to be up front with their intentions. Is it silly? Yes, but it’s just how people want to be seen as. Idk.

But get laid, satisfy her and maybe she’ll change her mind. You never know if you don’t try. Straight women are weird like that.

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Godtrademark t1_j1tud4f wrote

Fuck her she cheated lol

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tiredofmyfeelings OP t1_j1tuerl wrote

You read my previous posts? Yeah... But she is still hot

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hpfan312 t1_j1tuqku wrote

Her personality makes her ugly.

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tiredofmyfeelings OP t1_j1tuuv5 wrote

Yeah, goddamit, I now know better i hope. But she seemed more mature than before, and nicer

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hpfan312 t1_j1tvqjy wrote

Bro. Cheaters never change. Or it is extremely hard to, like the tiger and his stripes. Don't be stupid ah

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tiredofmyfeelings OP t1_j1tvt3w wrote

Young and horny makes me stupid, fuck, you are right

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AjahnAnarchy t1_j1vjfem wrote

She just wants to hit it, and if that’s not what you want then don’t.

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Godtrademark t1_j1tuu95 wrote

Download tinder jesus

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tiredofmyfeelings OP t1_j1tuw6p wrote

Yeah yeah, I've been seeing people since we broke up, but it's like empty sex, no fun

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Godtrademark t1_j1tx8h7 wrote

Hey you’ll grow out of it. Try to take ur own advice and reduce screen time. When i’m depressed it makes the overthinking worse. Get a nice, stress relieving hobby that has no link to technology. That way you’ll prob text her less too

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kingdom-- t1_j1twv7e wrote

man you're brave for texting your ex merry Christmas considering your history with her. I think what'll be hardest for you to realize is that she doesn't seem to care for your emotions and you've got to accept that you won't be able to change that about her. Let yourself enjoy sex with her if she's willing to meet up, but only if you can remember that she doesn't want anything more. Otherwise, your next best option may be to find friends that'll scold you for going back and talking to your ex 😅

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tiredofmyfeelings OP t1_j1tx12s wrote

Yeah, you are right. I would be able to enjoy and have sex and accept later to move on. But I know it's going to be a pain to do it, and will hurt myself trying. I'm better leaving that chance for another dude/day and safe that mental pain for someone who deserves it more.

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aquay t1_j1tw4di wrote

Dude, just hire a prostitute.

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tiredofmyfeelings OP t1_j1tw8p6 wrote

The problem is not having sex, I've had sex with other women during this year, the thing is that with her is different and more special

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