If you're still a minor, then best to do the family thing to keep the home situation in a better state than not going. If you're an adult out on your own, then do what you want regardless of anyone trying to guilt trip you.

Honestly, if both sides were trying to guilt me (not just giving me a hard time) and the days have been rough, I would do option 3 and stay home doing nothing as I don't need family/friends doing that to me.