TIFU by accidently asking two girls out at the same time even though I actually fancy their friend

Submitted by Much_Eye_4445 t3_zzriiy in tifu

I have just moved country and have been working a temporary job which just ended. On my way out I asked a few people (guys and girls) to stay in touch without thinking about how it might be misconstrued. Being on the spectrum it can be hard to read social cues and I sometimes don't think things through or realise until much later. I gave my number to two girls I was interested in being friends with, and then after I left I realised it probably looked like I was asking them BOTH out at the same time as they were literally standing next to each other. Worst part is I fancy their friend and she knows I fancy her because I asked her out so now probably thinks I am just a player when I was genuinely just trying to keep in touch with people because I just moved here and don't have many friends.

TLDR I gave two girls my number in the hopes of making more friends as i've just moved here. Now I look like a player to the girl I actually like.

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ChiSandTwitch t1_j2d72av wrote

You're overthinking it dude. And you know you are

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Much_Eye_4445 OP t1_j2d7pqe wrote

Maybe! I think my issue is I didn't actually tell them any of this, I just assumed they'd think I was being friendly, and in hindsight the reaction I got was definitely like I had just asked someone out...

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ChiSandTwitch t1_j2dccqh wrote

Well don't worry about it, because you can't control it and you don't actually know what they're thinking. Be the leaf on the wind man, let it go!

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BrightCityLights_ t1_j2eianz wrote

Women, or girls, are not complete idiots. If you suggested keeping in touch to two people at the same time, together, they absolutely do not think you are a player and want in their pants. Come on.

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Honestlykindacurious t1_j2dq2do wrote

I mean… did they respond as if you were asking them out on a date?

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Lidia70 t1_j2e19le wrote

Just tell the girl you really like how you feel and that you were just trying to stay in touch with people. The easiest way to deal with romantic stuff is usually just talk about it. Good luck 😃

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MegaMickPt t1_j2dy91q wrote

You might as well keep up the act and enjoy it! Life is short! Go on a date with both, and maybe end up the night with their friend you fancy watching y'all!

Edit: /s, you animals! 😂😅

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AcrobaticSource3 t1_j2fc16u wrote

Next time say this: “Here’s my number, I’d like to keep in touch with you, although not literally physically in touch because I am saving myself and my body for (crush’s name) over there.”

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SmoothMarx t1_j2e5x3f wrote

No you don't.

If anything, she's now downplaying your feelings and thinking "I guess he was just asking me to stay in touch".

But unless you did this at the gym, she definitely didn't think you were asking multiple girls out at the same time, in front of each other.

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philsthril t1_j2fgl1i wrote

If anything you might have increased your chances with the girl you fancy. She might now be wondering why you didn't ask for her number.

Regardless you did nothing wrong and enjoy this ride we call life! Happy New Year!!

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Ok-Ad-7247 t1_j2fp7sl wrote

Yeah, dude! High five!

Yeah, nah. You should be sweet. Just don't think about it too much, aye?

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Choice-Most-231 t1_j2eagtu wrote

Oh lord. I can’t understand any of these... you need a book on femaliology. Just kidding of course listen to your heart , and if you want to increase your ego which is not always a bad thing well have pleasure. But don’t fuck with someone’s feeling !

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AquaSux t1_j2ejobl wrote

Stop giving out your number to people you wanna be friends with and get an instagram or Facebook lol people are going to think you want to date them if you're giving them your number also some people aren't comfortable with that level of communication anyway.

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