chaos021 t1_j1y1jnk wrote on December 28, 2022 at 6:03 AM

Did your mom really not know who she married?

littlegirl14 OP t1_j1y1nug wrote on December 28, 2022 at 6:04 AM

I mean she did, but he’s been going to therapy for a bit now and I guess she didn’t realize how bad it still was. Plus I have 2 step-siblings so that kinda complicated things.

chaos021 t1_j1y1u71 wrote on December 28, 2022 at 6:06 AM

😬. That's a tough position to be in, but I wouldn't say you fucked up.

littlegirl14 OP t1_j1y1wyy wrote on December 28, 2022 at 6:07 AM

Yeah, I guess this whole time she’s been blaming me and the kids, and I feel pretty shitty that she’s struggling more with it now, even if it is the truth

chaos021 t1_j1y54md wrote on December 28, 2022 at 6:44 AM

It's alright to empathize, but don't blame yourself for this.

GaWdLy1 t1_j1zzp1s wrote on December 28, 2022 at 5:44 PM

You didn't TIFU, and your mom is the one who needs to be in counseling. Then she can figure out why she anchored herself to a man like your stepdad, and risked her kids.