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Scarecrow314159 t1_j1a2xac wrote

Eh, she won't remember and even if she does, it doesn't sound like it'd scar her. If anything, I'd urge you to take the opportunity to explain truthfully what was going on.

My parents taught me where babies really come from (with a medically accurate children's book about it) as soon as I asked where babies come from. I found it confusing and weird at the time but shrugged it off as a grown-up thing once they answered all my questions.

Stork stories and the like do more harm than good.

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ShortCartographers OP t1_j1a452p wrote

Yes, that’s generally our approach. We tell her the truth in an age appropriate way and use the correct terminology for what body parts are called. I don’t feel it does anyone any favors to be raised overly sheltered and especially to have biologically/medically important information kept a secret in a way that makes it seem shameful. But, uh, we definitely didn’t want her to see that.

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Scarecrow314159 t1_j1aavic wrote

Fair. It makes me glad to know that you're not hiding truth from your kid, it sucks when adults do that for like no reason. Kids can handle a lot of information better than adults think.

But yes, I totally understand that you wouldn't want your kid to see that xD

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k9moonmoon t1_j1b204t wrote

According to the post, they are both men, so that might make the "where babies come from" story in this context a little more confusing.

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davidgrayPhotography t1_j1d1olp wrote

I like to think that in gay relationships, Sir Ian McKellen shows up at your doorstep dressed as Gandalf. He invites himself in and presents the parents with a child over a nice cup of tea. There is no question of where the kid came from, no question of Sir Ian dressed as Gandalf just showing up on your doorstep. There is just a pleasant cup of tea, a child is handed over, and Gandalf just walks out the door

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Scarecrow314159 t1_j1cg193 wrote

I mean, I just meant that they could explain what intercourse is

But yes, I guess I derped a bit on that one lol because that's not where babies come from xD

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