sarebear75 t1_j1pz076 wrote on December 26, 2022 at 1:43 PM

Reply to comment by Melodic-Spite-5918 in TIFU: I molested the girl I like and now I don't know how to live with myself by Melodic-Spite-5918

Oh boy. OP when a girl tells you she doesn’t see you as a potential romantic partner then believe her even if you think she might not mean it. I think Becky genuinely only saw you as a friend back then and now as well. I think she allowed you to touch her chest out of fear you may choose to force more to happen if she says no, it’s a defence mechanism. From what I’m reading you seem to really need an outlet to talk about your feelings and experiences aka therapy (and I mean this nicely of course- i myself am in therapy) because the way you behave and react is not healthy. You are here for advice and this is my advice to you: Meet with a therapist and work on yourself and the therapist will definitely help you find a way to make it up to Becky. Definitely consider limiting your alcohol intake, it’s not safe to drink so much. Good luck op, you don’t seem like a bad dude but if you don’t choose to work on yourself and improve then something like this could potentially happen again (maybe even worse).

Melodic-Spite-5918 OP t1_j1pzwfs wrote on December 26, 2022 at 1:52 PM

Thanks. Yeah I entirely agree with what you said, I also don't think she just saw me as a friend, both back then and now and that allowing me to touch her chest was a defense mechanism because she was scared of me. I just said that her being unable to ever see me as a romantic prospect turned out to be not true because over the last few months, she told me multiple times that she wouldn't rule that possibility out from ever happening and even back then we could've ended up together if things had gone differently and if we hadn't met at a time where we were both going through other things. Of course, that doesn't mean that she ever did see me as a romantic prospect and I don't think she did. I now that I have been displaying destructive behavior even back then (emotionally harmful to both myself and others) and I am continually working on that. I thought I was already much better then back then and much more in control of myself and that I had moved on from a lot of my problematic tendencies but it looks like maybe I just bottled things up. I have a lot to think about and to work on and this mistake something that I will always carry with me and that I will never be able to forgive myself but I'm willing to be better from here on out.