BrightNooblar t1_ixix7bc wrote
Reply to comment by fuck-alia-iacta-est in TIFU: Paying $267 flight change fee on our second date so she'd stop screaming at United customer service instead of not seeing her again. Not today, three years ago—I just moved out. by fuck-alia-iacta-est
Speaking as both a middle manager, and someone who got out of a toxic/abusive relationship.
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If you don't want to antagonize her by getting a restraining order that fine. But figure out what a restraining order requires, and get everything totally set up. Talk to the cops about it NOW so they have a record, and include that conversation in a contact tracker with her.
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She texts you? Summarize in the contact tracker. She threatens you? Summarize and highlight. She calls you? Summarize in the tracker, send a text confirming that summary. Just a "Hey, just wanna make sure I remember that call right. You said I could pick up the yearbook I forgot Saturday around 2, right?" in text where its very plain on re-read.
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You're better off spending hours on a tracker you don't need, than years saddled with a problem because you didn't have enough documentation to support yourself from willful/accidental miscommunication, ESPECIALLY with a hostile ex.
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