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yumirow t1_ixip0uk wrote

Lol, get a restraining order mate

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fuck-alia-iacta-est OP t1_ixipkul wrote

Don't want to antagonize her so won't unless it's necessary but have had a lawyer on retainer since March, that will be requested immediately if necessary. She doesn't know where I live now.

Her dad started threatening to have me put on a psychiatric hold because I wanted to call an ambulance for her when she couldn't walk and I stopped accepting that she could be terrible to me while also having me do everything for her.

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DigitalTraveler42 t1_ixiv221 wrote

Bro he's a psychopath, you need to record yourselves in every conversation you have with them all just to cover your own ass, and you should escape this nightmare before it becomes worse for you.

There is no redemption in this situation, your gf is a broken person and it's the parents fault, so now they need to deal with her on their own.

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fuck-alia-iacta-est OP t1_ixiw24t wrote

I'm in a new apartment already, the post I quoted is from a week and a half ago. Sorry for not being clear, will make an edit.

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BrightNooblar t1_ixix7bc wrote

Speaking as both a middle manager, and someone who got out of a toxic/abusive relationship.

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DOCUMENTDOCUMENTDOCUMENT

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If you don't want to antagonize her by getting a restraining order that fine. But figure out what a restraining order requires, and get everything totally set up. Talk to the cops about it NOW so they have a record, and include that conversation in a contact tracker with her.

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She texts you? Summarize in the contact tracker. She threatens you? Summarize and highlight. She calls you? Summarize in the tracker, send a text confirming that summary. Just a "Hey, just wanna make sure I remember that call right. You said I could pick up the yearbook I forgot Saturday around 2, right?" in text where its very plain on re-read.

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You're better off spending hours on a tracker you don't need, than years saddled with a problem because you didn't have enough documentation to support yourself from willful/accidental miscommunication, ESPECIALLY with a hostile ex.

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marcelyns t1_ixizd3z wrote

The only thing that matters out of all of this - SHE DOESN'T KNOW WHERE YOU LIVE NOW. Block her on everything and get some intensive therapy. Congrats on moving away from her!

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