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Lymantria24 t1_ixqp0tm wrote

Why didn't you know that? Holy shit, I would have been so goddamn mad you and probably would've broken up with you over this, since you know nearly nothing about birth control whereas she suffers through it

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Shirlenator t1_ixrcclu wrote

I think it is less about him already knowing the information, and more about him not saying literally anything before he starts yanking on stuff down there.

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Lymantria24 t1_ixryplm wrote

While thinking all the people who made medical examinations on her were too stupid to see that 💀

This man has some audacity

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Gavin_the_Gullible t1_ixqxp9k wrote

Why would he know that?

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Lymantria24 t1_ixr4u67 wrote

Well. There are many reasons. 1. It's included in basic sex education. Now i don't know from what country OP comes from, so ill give him the benefit of doubt. 2. You enjoy going without a condom, the least you can do is find out about the way your girlfriend prevents pregnacy and read about it, especially the side effects. 3. He himself should also have interest in it, knowing how high the chances are to get pregnant with the chosen method of his girlfriend. 4. It's just basic knowledge, people talk about it. Like here. I'm sure he knew "kinda" what it meant when his girlfriend told him, so why not take 2 minutes to Google and find out the information?

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Alegria-D t1_ixsclge wrote

Imo one more thing is that when you're in a relationship, you should want to know as much as possible about your partner's health, about their symptoms, the conditions they have... I asked my partner if I could see which medicine they take, so I'd be aware if there are bad secondary effects I could spot and warn them about.

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Lymantria24 t1_ixsdi85 wrote

Absolutely!! OP is doing less than the bare minimum anyone would do in a truly loving relationship. I hope he either changed or his girlfriend will find someone better. Or maybe they are both like that, I guess it's fine then, haha

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doyoubelieveincrack t1_ixr546k wrote

Wow, that’s a whole lot of assumptions and judgement right there.

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Lymantria24 t1_ixr5ri7 wrote

Yeah, I deleted the last 2 sentences, i noticed it too. But I'm still fully behind the rest of what I said. The least you can do is to at least read about this stuff. Women suffer a lot from most of the methods and men tend to just sit there and not bother at all. Or do stupid stuff like you did, causing even more pain.

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GloveValuable8815 t1_ixs8g2l wrote

Both partners should contribute and be knowledgeable able what birth control methods are being used. It's not just the woman's job.

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cosimonh t1_ixs7kui wrote

because when people get together with a new partner, they would discuss contraception like if the girl is taking the pill or not or they have an IUD so they don't need to wear a condom?

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Gavin_the_Gullible t1_ixsk3ge wrote

That doesn't mean he knows what an IUD is.

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cosimonh t1_ixskk83 wrote

OPs just uneducated lol. If he doesn't know what it is he should ask or Google. He should understand his GF's body

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doyoubelieveincrack t1_ixr4m2t wrote

Tbh I dated a lot of women that had an IUD and I never noticed it before and those wires just don’t come up even in conversation about contraceptions I had prior. I would even say that I know more about contraception and the female reproductive system than your average Joe but just not that one detail which lead to disaster.

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4Pawbs t1_ixrniwt wrote

The wire usually soften overtime and get wrapped up around the cervix (the gaps around it) so they usually stay out of the way. Hubby could feel mine poking at him for the first few months until they settled.

Honestly I am female and knew nothing about these until I got one. They tell you basic stuff in sex ed but most info was around the pill and condoms.

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butteredbabyrolls t1_ixseivb wrote

fellow iud user here, how long does it take to soften? i got mine back in september

also did it hurt your partner at all? im about to visit mine and im nervous itll hurt him

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4Pawbs t1_ixsglog wrote

Not sure how long it took to soften partner can't recall that. But generally it can take a few months.

Just asked my partner he says no it didnt hurt. At first would be uncomfortable but if he readjusted it was fine. He said it was more like a light tickle then anything.

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