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MetalSpider t1_ixqhk1a wrote

I'm surprised she only looked at you funny instead of screaming bloody murder. Having an IUD ripped out hurts like fuck.

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doyoubelieveincrack t1_ixr4915 wrote

Yeah apparently she was quite lucky as it in itself didn’t hurt but afterwards she could definitely feel that something happened. Very lucky she was not in a lot of pain.

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Chairman-Dao t1_ixscii0 wrote

2 ER visits bc of IUDs. They honestly need to innovate BC, shit still feels medieval

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OriginalName483 t1_ixs0rtt wrote

Alternate timeline, she recently had surgery and you found a stitch/ staple/ fastener. You shredded and ripped out her uterus or something because for some reason you thought yanking things out of people without saying a single word was a reasonable thing to do.

Who the fuck yanks on things with no understanding or warning

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MaccGawd t1_ixsg0dt wrote

Exactly. The whole premise of this story is wild. In what world does anybody rationally think this way?

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tcarp458 t1_ixshu9h wrote

I don't think anyone would be having sex with fresh stitches

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OriginalName483 t1_ixsi703 wrote

Then I think you drastically underestimate the intersection of horny, drunk, and people who make unwise decisions.

Case and point, some people think it's perfectly fine to rip things out of people. That's WAY scarier and less defensible than letting someone finger you before you're sure your stitches finished desolving

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Shewantstheglock22 t1_ixskg8h wrote

My ex screwed his baby momma the day after she gave birth, while she had stitches. She got an infection, and he got dumped for cheating on me.

People do dumb shit.

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Invictrix t1_ixsp2cq wrote

That's what I came here to say and you already said it so thank you. I find it absolutely creepy that someone's first instinct would be to yank on something internal.

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Figgy20000 t1_ixrdb8g wrote

How do you raw dog it without knowing what kind of birth control she is on?

This is how you end up with 12 unwanted babies my friend.

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doyoubelieveincrack t1_ixrf64d wrote

Read my other comments

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Figgy20000 t1_ixuerax wrote

I just went through your comment history and in not a single one did you even slightly mention making any sort of attempt to figure out what what kind of birth control she was on ahead of time or using a condom yourself.

That my friend, makes you a fool.

Hopefully you gain some insight before you have a couple of unwanted pregnancies or STDs

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Ocean_Spice t1_ixr8u21 wrote

… Did you think she just accidentally got wires inside her body somehow? It didn’t occur to you that if they were there at all, it’s probably for a reason?

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doyoubelieveincrack t1_ixr95yv wrote

Haha no at that moment I was stupid as fuck and just thought I figured out why she was feeling unwell. Also we were both quite drunk at that moment. But yeah it’s a TIFU after all, ey?

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Ocean_Spice t1_ixr9fbq wrote

I’m surprised she wasn’t in a lot more pain, that shit hurts.

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MajestaHazel t1_ixrp44i wrote

Mine came out with a tampon and I didn’t even feel it.

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Alegria-D t1_ixsbhq0 wrote

When you are on your periods, your cervix might be more opened than usual. I remember il r/badwomensanatomy someone posted a "good anatomy" serie of pictures she took of her own cervix during periods, it was instructive. That's also the reason why doctors tell you to get an appointment during your period to put the iud in. That said the pain is different for each person.

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LonelyGamer1337 t1_ixsapxt wrote

Not sure why your getting downvoted just chiming in with your own experience. Although your post history is a bit questionable...

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doyoubelieveincrack t1_ixr9l0u wrote

Yeah just got really lucky I guess. Very thankfull for that. But felt very sorry the following weeks

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Stats_n_PoliSci t1_ixs7j3c wrote

Pain levels vary drastically in women's reproductive areas. A simple pap smear has no pain for some women, and is extremely painful for others. An IUD insertion is a minor pinch for some women, and the worst pain of their life for others. It's kind of incredible how bodies vary.

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MrX2285 t1_ixsfzm9 wrote

Why are people down voting you for admitting you fucked up on TIFU?

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Lymantria24 t1_ixqp0tm wrote

Why didn't you know that? Holy shit, I would have been so goddamn mad you and probably would've broken up with you over this, since you know nearly nothing about birth control whereas she suffers through it

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Shirlenator t1_ixrcclu wrote

I think it is less about him already knowing the information, and more about him not saying literally anything before he starts yanking on stuff down there.

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Lymantria24 t1_ixryplm wrote

While thinking all the people who made medical examinations on her were too stupid to see that 💀

This man has some audacity

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Gavin_the_Gullible t1_ixqxp9k wrote

Why would he know that?

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Lymantria24 t1_ixr4u67 wrote

Well. There are many reasons. 1. It's included in basic sex education. Now i don't know from what country OP comes from, so ill give him the benefit of doubt. 2. You enjoy going without a condom, the least you can do is find out about the way your girlfriend prevents pregnacy and read about it, especially the side effects. 3. He himself should also have interest in it, knowing how high the chances are to get pregnant with the chosen method of his girlfriend. 4. It's just basic knowledge, people talk about it. Like here. I'm sure he knew "kinda" what it meant when his girlfriend told him, so why not take 2 minutes to Google and find out the information?

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Alegria-D t1_ixsclge wrote

Imo one more thing is that when you're in a relationship, you should want to know as much as possible about your partner's health, about their symptoms, the conditions they have... I asked my partner if I could see which medicine they take, so I'd be aware if there are bad secondary effects I could spot and warn them about.

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Lymantria24 t1_ixsdi85 wrote

Absolutely!! OP is doing less than the bare minimum anyone would do in a truly loving relationship. I hope he either changed or his girlfriend will find someone better. Or maybe they are both like that, I guess it's fine then, haha

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doyoubelieveincrack t1_ixr546k wrote

Wow, that’s a whole lot of assumptions and judgement right there.

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Lymantria24 t1_ixr5ri7 wrote

Yeah, I deleted the last 2 sentences, i noticed it too. But I'm still fully behind the rest of what I said. The least you can do is to at least read about this stuff. Women suffer a lot from most of the methods and men tend to just sit there and not bother at all. Or do stupid stuff like you did, causing even more pain.

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GloveValuable8815 t1_ixs8g2l wrote

Both partners should contribute and be knowledgeable able what birth control methods are being used. It's not just the woman's job.

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cosimonh t1_ixs7kui wrote

because when people get together with a new partner, they would discuss contraception like if the girl is taking the pill or not or they have an IUD so they don't need to wear a condom?

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Gavin_the_Gullible t1_ixsk3ge wrote

That doesn't mean he knows what an IUD is.

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cosimonh t1_ixskk83 wrote

OPs just uneducated lol. If he doesn't know what it is he should ask or Google. He should understand his GF's body

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doyoubelieveincrack t1_ixr4m2t wrote

Tbh I dated a lot of women that had an IUD and I never noticed it before and those wires just don’t come up even in conversation about contraceptions I had prior. I would even say that I know more about contraception and the female reproductive system than your average Joe but just not that one detail which lead to disaster.

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4Pawbs t1_ixrniwt wrote

The wire usually soften overtime and get wrapped up around the cervix (the gaps around it) so they usually stay out of the way. Hubby could feel mine poking at him for the first few months until they settled.

Honestly I am female and knew nothing about these until I got one. They tell you basic stuff in sex ed but most info was around the pill and condoms.

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butteredbabyrolls t1_ixseivb wrote

fellow iud user here, how long does it take to soften? i got mine back in september

also did it hurt your partner at all? im about to visit mine and im nervous itll hurt him

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4Pawbs t1_ixsglog wrote

Not sure how long it took to soften partner can't recall that. But generally it can take a few months.

Just asked my partner he says no it didnt hurt. At first would be uncomfortable but if he readjusted it was fine. He said it was more like a light tickle then anything.

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OnlyJewels_ t1_ixqgyth wrote

I’m glad she was alright with it. She’s deserves some real TLC though in the following weeks, between the hormones, anxiety of not having birth control, pain of ripping a medical device out of her uterus and the fact she’ll have to go through more excruciating pain to get another one put in… yeah treat her well my dude.

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Lymantria24 t1_ixqp49c wrote

He's found a saint, every normal woman would've gone ballistic on him. Me included

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Huckleberry_83 t1_ixqq5k6 wrote

Pissed is an understatement. If I was that girl I would've beaten the daylights out of you. The torture we females go through to get it put in.. the cramping that puts you in the fetal position, the bleeding for 2+ weeks to months.. not to mention the feeling of the metal tools being shoved pretty uncaring into your cervix and uterus with ZERO pain medication.. Ugh.

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AislinnScr t1_ixs1uyx wrote

I feel immensely sorry for anyone who gets an IUD implanted without even an offer of pain medication.

Personally, when I got mine I was told the choice was there to get a local anesthetic. Tried a couple seconds without it, then decided it was a good idea and after the injection felt almost no pain. Maybe how much of an ordeal it is depends on where and by whom it's done?

Can confirm the side effects can be a nightmare, regardless.

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[deleted] OP t1_ixso1or wrote

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Huckleberry_83 t1_ixticfo wrote

Lucky for you. They were not gentle with me the first time. Plus, oddly positioned uterus so they had to use a good bit of force to ram it in there. But, the next 7 years were worth it. I'm on my third one.

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[deleted] OP t1_ixtim9e wrote

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Huckleberry_83 t1_ixtiv9i wrote

Sounds like me. Self destruct mode. Lol. Been so sick with random things. Thankfully not covid though.

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bs-scientist t1_ixsmo5z wrote

It totally depends on who is doing it and who the woman getting it inserted is.

I’m one of the lucky ones. It was relatively easy for me, just mild discomfort.

But holy shit have I read some horror stories. Some sort of sedation/pain relief should be mandatory. You should have to opt out if you don’t want/need it.

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Huckleberry_83 t1_ixti8aw wrote

A lot of places apparently think 800mg of ibuprofen is sufficient pain medication to have metal tools shoved not too gently into your uterus. Even more so if your uterus is oddly positioned and the nurse has to press on your gut to move your uterus down so they can push -harder- with the tools to make it fit in there. Most OB/gyn will only do them in office, without pain medication/numbing. Also too, insurance cost is part of it. It's 100% covered.. if you do it without sedation. I paid 1300$ and got my rear knocked out with ketamine and that was the best experience I've had with IUD placements.

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maohvixen t1_ixstk20 wrote

I blacked out briefly from the pain of getting mine inserted then had two or so days of severe cramps and I was actually one of the luckier women!

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Huckleberry_83 t1_ixthh2l wrote

That's good. The first two I had, I was cramping for a month. Bled for at least 3 weeks. Had to do pelvic ultrasounds on already tender parts to verify it was still in place with how bad it was. Third time? I asked to have it placed in the OR. Knocked my butt out with Ketamine and I had zero pain and bleeding. Magical. Going to ask to have it done that way again next time (and hopefully last!)

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rossimac007 t1_ixs46ag wrote

Ive seen a lot of dumb things posted here but holy shit kid, you are an idiot

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Str8Jittin t1_ixs718z wrote

I’m very pleased to see you’re getting basted. You’re an idiot.

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ihateotherhumans1 t1_ixsailf wrote

I apologise if this comes off as judgemental but I am genuinely lost for words on this.... I don't quite understand how OP wasn't aware of what birth control their gf was on, surely if you're going bareback that's a discussion you would have had? Also, the risk of injury/infection by incorrectly removing an IUD in such an aggressive way is a very real, dangerous possibility. I'm sorry OP, but you need to do better.

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detectivenotfromhere t1_ixs57ap wrote

I wasn’t even awake for mine to be placed, to just rip it out could have seriously hurt your GF and extremely painful.

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fuckimtrash t1_ixsj26h wrote

Pretty sure IUD’s are super painful to put in too, I’d be fucking pissed

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kikume t1_ixsry8q wrote

People who believe this clearly don’t quite understand how cervices work and where an IUD goes. Don’t think you can “rip” one out without causing some damage.

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PBlove t1_ixstjlk wrote

Oh you can rip one out....

I mean you might need pliars and would tear her all to hell and back... But you could.

(Also after implantation it sucks for a bit and before it sort of settles you can "dislodge" it by accident.

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stineytuls t1_ixssdsd wrote

FYI don't pull on random shit in peoples bodies you weirdo.

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phunkydroid t1_ixst436 wrote

Dude why would you do something like that without asking. To answer your username, yes, and I think you're on it.

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Unkn0wnMachine t1_ixrxddn wrote

My psychotic ass would conclude that she’s an android sent to spy on me if I felt wires in her like that

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psibomber t1_ixsmani wrote

Maybe you're not psychotic, just uninformed. If there is something scary that you don't understand, investigate it and find knowledge on it. Maybe you will fear it less.

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Ranita09 t1_ixr3clr wrote

Hahahahahaha great story. I pulled mine out as well but I did it on purpose because I didnt want to go to a doctor.

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doyoubelieveincrack t1_ixr4ru8 wrote

Is this some sort of american moment or are you just metal af?

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babysauruslixalot t1_ixs15w9 wrote

it's becoming a trend.. at home removal.. because they charge you a stupid amount to do it (my first one when it was partially coming out.. i got slapped with an $800 bill, refusal for insurance to pay because they thought it was elective AND refusal to pay for a new one until the first one "expired" - it took some arguing with insurance for them to understand this was an emergency removal since my uterus shoved it out and it was hangin halfway out of my cervix)

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Vast_Reflection t1_ixsftby wrote

If you’re in the US, Planned Parenthood do this for huge discount or for free.

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Ranita09 t1_ixsw470 wrote

Metal af haha. But also, I read about how to do it and what could happen and I have a high tolerance to pain, wich was not an issue as it did not hurt at all, just sliight discomfort. And hospital is less than 10 mins drive worst case scenario.

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TheyCallMeGilly t1_ixr77f6 wrote

I did the same thing. My girlfriends doctor had me actually pull it out of her.

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doyoubelieveincrack t1_ixr7vkd wrote

No way? Didn’t know that doctors could just assign a do it yourself assignment lol.

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TheyCallMeGilly t1_ixr8v9k wrote

Well, when I accidentally tugged on the wire she immediately had cramps so bad that she was doubled over, but it was probably 11 pm or so, so she had to suffer through the night, but her doctor called back on the morning and said “if he can still feel it, have him pull it out” so that’s what I did and it came out relatively easily so she felt better within 2 hrs

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AislinnScr t1_ixs2l7p wrote

Interesting story and probably another example underscoring the "don't tug on random wires inside vaginas" lesson. Your gf has my deepest sympathy, and I hope she forgives the accident.

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MajestaHazel t1_ixrp1c0 wrote

Umm…you can get a new one placed right away, so she is also either uneducated or lied to you.

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doyoubelieveincrack t1_ixrp7zu wrote

We were abroad and it was an insurance thing. Jeez you’re all so quick to judge today.

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MajestaHazel t1_ixrz1zo wrote

You said it was a hormone thing. Maybe get your story straight?

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AislinnScr t1_ixs2wmu wrote

He actually didn't give a direct explanation on why they couldn't get a new one, just said her hormones were messed up because she couldn't immediately replace it...

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Ocean_Spice t1_ixsfiey wrote

I think you misunderstood, he said that because there was a delay getting a new one, it messed with her hormones.

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