Throwaway2756655101 OP t1_ixu2902 wrote on November 26, 2022 at 10:13 AM

Reply to comment by L31FY in TIFU BY ACCIDENTALLY GETTING CPS CALLED ON MY PARENTS by Throwaway2756655101

They don’t treat my sibling like they treat me though, they’re practically the golden child and my mom chose to raise them right and unlike she raised me. My sibling wasn’t old enough to remember the terrible things their dad/my old step-dad did to me and my older sibling (who’s been living with my bio dad for 6 years now) so they’ve been left with no mental scars or depression, and my mom and her boyfriend baby them. At this point they’re like my moms boyfriends real child

jenkinsleroi t1_ixug8ou wrote on November 26, 2022 at 1:20 PM

Based on what you said it sounds like it still is not a good environment for your sibling to grow up in.

L31FY t1_ixvfubn wrote on November 26, 2022 at 6:07 PM

It definitely creates other issues even if they're sheltered from the bad things they experienced although I guarantee people hear stuff through walls or from other rooms. Kids also know way more about situations than they ever let on until someone asks usually because they're afraid they're in trouble or someone they care about is. You end up with not knowing how to take care of yourself at all and being entitled if you aren't disciplined appropriately or taught what to do and not do like if you've had it all done for you always then you simply expect it then won't grow up any. I don't think that mindset should have had a ton of time to set into someone who is ten yet so plenty of time to change that and not let it happen before they turn into a dysfunctional person due to the lack of parenting. The obvious issue still lies in that there was literally not running water and that is a basic thing anyone should have. It's not overreacting that child services is involved at all here to at least check in.

YourLocalWhiteKid t1_ixulmg6 wrote on November 26, 2022 at 2:13 PM

I promise you it won't last for them and the niceness will fade overtime. This is your chance to do something about it before it gets worse for you or others

jenkinsleroi t1_ixunh05 wrote on November 26, 2022 at 2:30 PM

Or, they could overindulge the sibling who then becomes an insufferable and generally messed up person in a completely different way.

At the very least, they will not serve as good models of responsibility.

KarasLegion t1_ixv2spt wrote on November 26, 2022 at 4:33 PM

I promise you are wrong. First of all they see how you are treated and I'm sure have been around to hear the "yelling matches." And what you think is being treated better, you may be unable to tell that they are still not being treated well, and are probably being treated wrong in another way.

You did nothing wrong here. And if cps deems everything okay, which sadly... They probably will even if they aren't okay. Then it's w.e. But your siblings will still likely have different scars.

But maybe we're wrong, and they will be perfectly fine. Of course I hope that and it's okay for you to hope that but don't let yourself be blind to the possibility. Remember individual perception matters.

And even your guardians may not realize how bad they are if they were treated badly. "I'm better than my parents were" doesn't mean much sometimes.

Trust me... I know.