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Thisispalatable t1_iuq67yb wrote

I understand that this is an incredibly difficult thing to have to go through, and I feel terrible for you situation. You were giving so much love and trust and someone violated that. But if it helps at all, know that this is just one chapter in many and the love you have to offer to offer can still flourish for many others!

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Economy_Leek123 OP t1_iuq6d10 wrote

Thanks you for that reassurance. I know I probably will find love again, and that it was naive of me to think this one would last forever. But, I hadn’t ever felt love like that before, I genuinely thought it was my once in a lifetime love.

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Dessidiri t1_iuqcax0 wrote

The secret about once in a lifetime love is that everyone has the potentiality to be that person. You don't find the right guy and magic happens... That bond is builded by the two of you with trust, fondness and hard work to make the relationship stronger than any problems you find in the way.

Is not like this can be done only by one special person and nobody else is able to do that with you; it's more like a choice you both need to make every day in your life. So, if you can make that kind of choice, you're already half way to find love.

Sorry for my bad english, btw. Hope this could help to give some perspective.

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Stuffthatpig t1_iuqmssh wrote

> thought it was my once in a lifetime love.

This doesn't exist. Love takes work every day from both sides. I firmly believe you can fall in love with almost anyone. Making it last is the hard part. I tell this to every newlywed - wake up and choose to love the other person every day. Even when you want to scream in their face and think you hate them. Choose to love them.

This asshole wasn't making this choice. And to be honest, you're young and in lust love. You probably weren't making this choice either.

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noxxit t1_iuqsx6d wrote

Public shaming for scamming you out of x-hundred dollars. If he keeps it, publicly label him a scammer. He made you trust him to gift him something valuable. That's the same tactic used by phone scammers. "Skyler is a scammer", he scammed you. Yes, you were naive, but so are all scamming victims. Sometimes we are vulnerable and guillable and stupid. Please don't victim blame yourself or let others do that to you.

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OkapiEli t1_iuqcb4r wrote

It's hard to hear this and may seem impossible right now but he was NOT your once-in-a-lifetime love. You deserve BETTER. And you WILL be loved, in the way you deserve.

Just this week I reconnected with a young man who had a tough time in his teens, Catholic family, lots of identity struggle. Now a decade later he is married with a gorgeous husband and baby twins - so happy!

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teronna t1_iuqqr0z wrote

Every love is a once-in-a-lifetime love. Your next one will be once-in-a-lifetime, just like this one.

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Faiakishi t1_iuqie9q wrote

You're absolutely right that you will almost certainly find true love again and the pain of this will fade.

But right now, it feels terrible. It's going to feel terrible for a while, and you're allowed to feel terrible about it. Don't diminish what you're feeling right now.

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danderskoff t1_iuqt62t wrote

It's a good lesson to learn now when you're young

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