Tanagrabelle t1_iufrzfv wrote
Reply to comment by wain13001 in TIFU by losing a friend by [deleted]
Because spreading rumors like “I had sex with this person“ is what some people do when they are rejected, when they want to look cool, when they don’t want to look like a prude, and saying “it’s on you to explain how this would benefit me“ is something gas lighters and manipulative people do to others.
wain13001 t1_iufsvl6 wrote
Except she didn't reject him, and he really didn't try to ruin her character. I'm not saying he shouldn't have done more, I'm saying the best he can do is give her space and time to process her own feelings, and then be blatantly, painfully honest, and get his other "friend" out of his life. There's nothing else to be done.
It's not gaslighting or manipulative to ask someone to reason out their emotional state when you're trying to apologize and have an honest conversation.
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