I’m not going to comment on whether you made the right choice or not by getting married because it’s your life and you are free to make your own decisions.

You and your BF chose to get married and not tell anyone (congratulations on your marriage btw. I hope you have a long and successful one!) but now you are experiencing the consequences of your actions.

By keeping secrets from close friends and family, especially one as big as getting married, there will be a fallout in those relationships. Family and close friends usually expect (rightly or wrongly) to be a part of these big milestones and to be left out or not even told, can damage relationships.

You and hubby are now a team so it’s best to discuss this with him and work out a way to move forward here.

You will experience many crises as a couple and this is just the first.

Probably a good idea to have a conversation about boundaries and expectations you have of each other too - as jealousy and lying are incredibly toxic and can be abusive.

Perhaps seeing a couples therapist can help you navigate these choppy waters.

Best of luck to you all.