Well you've done the right thing commenting here. A host of kids will tell you what a loser you are and that you don't deserve to live while getting together and downvoting anyone who calls them out for their toxic behaviour (watch it happen to this one). Reddit used to be such a good place. The AHs were the minority. Now they move like an army.

Don't give yourself a hard time. You didn't mean to do anything wrong and your wife should have a set price the same as you. You are probably in the States where health is a commodity and having a disability is expensive. You are really up against it. Life will get better. Learn this. If you don't mean to hurt someone, then apologize for what you've done and move on. Don't let them guilt trip you. It's up to them if they sulk. Take ANY social help you can get...and look at prices.... Don't give the multinationals a penny more than you have to. Soda from a supermarket.... Not a fast food place etc. And maybe think about retraining. There are people out there with higher pay than you and not much more of anything except qualifications.