Submitted by Miser-Mike t3_y4o8bq in tifu
Whatislife287 t1_isf9pg7 wrote
You sounds like a dude I wouldn’t wanna date or be friends with. She probably wanted you to shower with her so you could have mess free sex.
Learn about periods. You don’t stand in a puddle of red🙄 if you have sec maybe a little will come out but who actually cares.
Don’t make your gf feel like crap because your a uneducated and ignorant
KautiousNupe55 t1_isgqmor wrote
For some guys and gals - the best way to have "mess free sex" is simply to wait until the period has come and gone and the vaginal walls, utereal lining and everything else has been refreshed. Sounds misogynistic - but we're talking 4th grade BIOLOGICAL FACTS here ladies and gentlemen.
Stop telling people that they should grow up and 'put down towels' or result to 'shower sex' because that's the best way to show your woman that you care. Should the guy make his woman feel bad for having a period on vacation or immediately get defensive if she notices his hesitation for a joint shower during her menstrual cycle?? Of course not!! But in the same vain of being empathetic humans who don't put our perspectives, needs or wants above those of others, she should also NOT make him feel bad if he has his own preferences in these kinds of situations. The guy most certainly should have used more tact and grace in regard to how he communicated with his lady in this situation. He is also probably expected to know that most period days for women aren't gorey, blood soaked horror scenes like LOTS of young boys think they are when we first learn about the fact that the vagina bleeds several days a month and women have to wear garments or devices or make different accommodations for a few days a month to catch and capture the blood.
Squigglepig52 t1_isfn11j wrote
And he wasn't in the mood for a shared shower. Guys are allowed to not want to have sex, or to not get the hint.
I mean, personally? Sex or not, I'd turn down that experience. Shower sex isn't fun, and for me, neither is sharing a shower or tub.
Seems like a double standard to be angry because dude wasn't thinking about sex on demand.
Kat1eQueen t1_isfp7vd wrote
> I do admit I had a flash-forward of standing in reddish water and not being happy about that also though.
OP literally said this, he clearly has no fucking clue how periods work and it heavily looks like he is disgusted by normal shit. Also the person you replied to mentioned that sex might have been a possibility on the side, yet you somehow made your entire comment based solely on that.
Squigglepig52 t1_isfyq1e wrote
dude's squeamishness was the last thing he mentioned, and it was what he said at teh end of his GF giving him shit. Yet, somehow, you avoid the fact she was angry before he said a word, and make it all about the blood.
She was angry when she came out, she "had one in the clip". That's what you overlook,because "omg, guys just don't get it!"
KautiousNupe55 t1_isi5dbj wrote
You're using way too much logic in your comments Squiggle. That's why all of your comments are being down voted, smh. Kudos to you for keeping it respectful and on topic and for not taking the bate of the strawman arguments being lobbed at you.
Whatislife287 t1_isg19gj wrote
I’m sure she was angry beforehand and he just was too into himself to notice.
Squigglepig52 t1_isg1whd wrote
Based on what, exactly?
they are on a lovely vacation, they just went out, had a nice time, and some drinks. Why would she be angry before?
Whatislife287 t1_isg13u4 wrote
It’s all about communication. He could have expressed that he didn’t want to have sex or take a mutual shower , but instead he made a big deal about a natural bodily function that you cannot control or get rid of and made someone he’s supposed to love feel like shit. He literally said this in his post.
Squigglepig52 t1_isg2l56 wrote
He literally said "nah", which is a clear refusal.
Then, she came out angry, and claimed it was because of her period - and he literally told her it wasn't the issue.
He didn't actually tell her he didn't want to stand in bloody water, he had a mental image of it. So, he actually did the opposite of making a big deal, he actually said it's not the issue.
It's amazing the contortions you'll do to make this his fault, as opposed to just saying "Dude, she's on her period and cranky. Do what she asks or she'll get pissy"
Whatislife287 t1_isg5e5j wrote
Tell me you don’t know how women work without telling me you don’t know how women work😂 you literally just said she’ll get pissy because of her period and to just go along with what she wants lol - because that’s healthy
Squigglepig52 t1_isgmd1r wrote
You should probably learn to read a bit better.
I said that what it seems like you really want to say to the OP. Cater to her because she's on her period.
I never said it's healthy, but it's the only way the OP wasn't going to get shit on in this exchange.
redwolf587 t1_ishewl6 wrote
If that was the case the title of this TIFU would be "my girlfriend MISUNDERSTOOD why I didn't want to take a shower " not use a lame emoji to reference periods. He's immature.
He's made it clear in this post that he's grossed out (or uneducated) by it.
Appropriate_Cycle_47 t1_isg1ue3 wrote
I wouldn't want to date or be friends with you either so.... uhh... yea, have a good day
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