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[deleted] OP t1_jdehheu wrote

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nightowl_i t1_jdekfdx wrote

Wtf ? Its their fucking choice whether they want a kid or not and you have no fucking right to go against. Keep barking on the internet

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homecookhag t1_jdeog4n wrote

Lol barking on the internet is a reach. That was just my initial thought when I read this. I also do have the right to go against their choice with my opinion, but it wont stop them. I would make an effort to shame them if I knew them because it's my right and nobody can stop me. Why are you so salty?

Edit: to everyone up in arms about how it's their choice, yes it is. However choices can be selfish and this particular choice has the chance of robbing someone of a normal life.

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Significant_Fox_1779 t1_jdelxe9 wrote

While it’s their right doesn’t mean it’s morally right when you know it’s going to be passed down.. you’d really wish upon someone to be born with terrible disabilities when it could have been prevented??

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nightowl_i t1_jden5r2 wrote

So you assume a disabled person will always give birth to a disabled baby? You and I dont know her condition so lets not assume. Plus if a couple wants a baby irrespective of their physical or mental conditions - it is completely their choice and its upon them.....there is no question about 'morally' here.....its entirely and exclusive up to the couple to decide.....there are many morally right things for some people that are morally wrong for others

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MysteriousMist24 t1_jdeovsd wrote

Some time before we fell out she was losing weight like no matter what she ate. Then she had to go to the hospital because she almost died from starving. Now she has to have a feeding tube and she couldn't sleep well cos of it. I'm not sure what disease or condition caused that but but I really wouldn't want a baby to inherit that or have to go through it.

Not saying the baby would be born disabled but it's a really big risk they're taking. It would be like a miracle if the baby was completely normal.

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SkyrimIsForTheNerds t1_jdeuvw2 wrote

Good thing you aren’t friends with her anymore. You sound ableist af.

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MysteriousMist24 t1_jdex12k wrote

Not wishing a baby to be born disabled makes me ableist? 🤨

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SkyrimIsForTheNerds t1_jdeyv0m wrote

You don’t even know what’s wrong with her but you assume she shouldn’t have kids as a result.

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MysteriousMist24 t1_jdf02lg wrote

She didn't speak about it much and I didn't bring it up. Sometimes it would come up in conversation like chronic pain, diabetes, having to wear a leg brace or a walking stick when she doesn't have the brace. She has to wear a feeding tube last time we spoke. She has other conditions but we never spoke about them. She said her mom's the same and she inherited her mom's disability.

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Significant_Fox_1779 t1_jdeo9h9 wrote

You are why many people become serial killers or kill themselves, you don’t seem to care if the parents are capable parents nor about the child’s quality of life. You are the problem

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MysteriousMist24 t1_jdehxgs wrote

Thanks. Yea I think her body's doing her a favour. She was born like this and developed those conditions and now she wants to pass them onto a baby.

Probably a good thing we aren't friends anymore.

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SmolSpacePrince39 t1_jdfybut wrote

It sounds like she’d be risking both her own life and the baby’s if she did carry. Even if the baby made it to term and was born, there’s likely an increased chance of illness or disability. It’s not my place to judge, but I can say that I don’t understand her mindset. It baffles me. It’s also just a lot of trauma to put oneself through.

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nightowl_i t1_jdersaa wrote

There are doctors for that...who will assess and discuss with patients whether they can or cannot conceive (whether its a danger for the mother etc)

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ElizabethSpaghetti t1_jdh6yj4 wrote

Well this circled around to eugenics. What a horrible "friend" you are. She's lucky to have dropped so a nasty person from her life; it has already improved.

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