Idk if she'd go that far. The reason she wants me to take control is because she has almost no sexual urges after her meds fucked up her libido, unless she watches porn. Too many other things in this relationship are amazing to drop it because I suck at putting out, and yes I've found help. Just recently I've been really bad with performance anxiety when I'm about to try things, mainly because i've dropped the ball almost every night for a week and a bit. Once things happen and I realize I can do it, it goes way better and I can be confident.