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ThatOneGuys-porn t1_jdq1rl5 wrote

Reply to comment by PaladinCloudring in TIFU by saying I really struggle to initiate sexy times with my GF by [deleted]

Tempting next time, but fuck if my anxiety makes me struggle to even say things like that because I'm scared to mess up

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PaladinCloudring t1_jdq1vqe wrote

The worst that can happen is she says no.

Or someone breaks into your house and stabs you to death in the middle of the night.

Gotta shoot your shot, especially where you've shot your shot many times before.

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ThatOneGuys-porn t1_jdq24e8 wrote

Fair fair, I just suck at confidence... Which is exactly what she wants from me. Idk why it even gets me so anxious, it just does. I think it comes from how easily she blames herself for everything and I don't want her to feel bad

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PaladinCloudring t1_jdq2c8f wrote

Then you might need to reevaluate if you should be in a relationship or not. Have you sought help for anxiety/depression? I'm not saying you need to start putting out, but some other guy might.

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ThatOneGuys-porn t1_jdq2xuy wrote

Idk if she'd go that far. The reason she wants me to take control is because she has almost no sexual urges after her meds fucked up her libido, unless she watches porn. Too many other things in this relationship are amazing to drop it because I suck at putting out, and yes I've found help. Just recently I've been really bad with performance anxiety when I'm about to try things, mainly because i've dropped the ball almost every night for a week and a bit. Once things happen and I realize I can do it, it goes way better and I can be confident.

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PaladinCloudring t1_jdq321y wrote

Meds do that, but the great part is, it doesn't stabilise and go back, at least in my experience. You're going to have to sack up and just start whipping your dick out and helicoptering, I guess.

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ThatOneGuys-porn t1_jdq350e wrote

That got a good laugh. Will try my best. I can do a mean helicopter

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PaladinCloudring t1_jdq37mp wrote

You can always try twerking too. Just pop some Taylor Swift on and throw ya back out

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