Virtura t1_jdcjovc wrote on March 23, 2023 at 12:54 PM

Reply to comment by [deleted] in TIFU By snooping through my wife's phone by [deleted]

It takes two to work at a marriage, and it sounds like she isn't. It will be more painful for you to suffer a slow death to the relationship if she doesn't want to fight for it.

Do not resign yourself to this, there will be life after and you do not want the regrets and bitterness of handing her everything you are entitled to as your partnership ends and she moves on.

[deleted] OP t1_jdcjsaf wrote on March 23, 2023 at 12:55 PM

Oh she'll move on in a heartbeat

Fullspectrum84 t1_jdcpu4h wrote on March 23, 2023 at 1:41 PM

She’s already moved on.

LividLager t1_jdcpz54 wrote on March 23, 2023 at 1:42 PM

My dude. You just got rocked, and it's going to take you a long time to recover. Do your future self, and kids a favor, get therapy, and lawyer up. This is going to be one of the biggest decisions of your life, and not caring is not an option. Have the lawyer give you your options, reach out to someone close to lean on. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your kids. There's no shame in this... She fucked up... She hurt you...

Also, collect evidence. Take time off of work if you can... You got this.

SpinozaTheDamned t1_jdcrpai wrote on March 23, 2023 at 1:55 PM

Weirdly enough, this isn't your fault. You had suspicions, and you acted on them. In a healthy relationship, spouses should have no issues sharing their communications with others to their SO. Look, it took me a long time to get over this simple truth, but you can't control how other people feel about you, all you can do is react to the information you're given. She made her choices, and there wasn't anything you could have done to prevent it. The only person who had control over this was her.

Smodphan t1_jdcsjgu wrote on March 23, 2023 at 2:01 PM

Given his attitude about the situation and his kids being taken, it seems both parties have contributed to this one sided story he's giving