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Dez2011 t1_jco7zwu wrote

It could be worse. You could've asked her when her baby is due. That's the worst, so it's best to never ever mention that unless you're told a women is pregnant. Some people just carry more weight there.

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Fwamingdwagon84 t1_jcqqb4x wrote

Yep, that's me. Skinny everywhere else but have a little extra pudge. I get asked at least once a week, at my job, when I'm due. Who fucking raised these people?

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winterdalliance t1_jcr8kx9 wrote

This describes my body type as well. Just a few days ago someone asked, "Oh, do you have a bun in the oven?!" No. No, ma'am, I don't. But thanks for pointing out I could strengthen my core, I guess. 🙄

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Fwamingdwagon84 t1_jcr9fzp wrote

Yeah, im like thanks, im almost 40 with a lot of health issues, the metabolism is slowing down finally. I'd love to try some exercise for that area, but just got diagnosed with anemia yesterday(fainted at work)and I am too fucking exhausted atm.

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winterdalliance t1_jcr9txi wrote

Yeesh, people are rude. For me, mid-thirties, have had a kid, would like to have another, but because of a medical emergency several years ago, I can't. So, every time someone asks, that lovely struggle is brought back up. Yay.

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TrainableGirl t1_jcrzxma wrote

I have multiple food intolerances that cause extreme bloat. Been dealing with them for years but can’t ever seem to win. I look pregnant and I know this. Like you though for medical reasons I can’t so whenever someone asks me about my “pregnancy” I want to die a little. I’ve never had a kid and never will.

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Dez2011 t1_jcsh2fs wrote

I had a friend who had liver damage that was so severe she looked a full 9 months pregnant from the fluid backing up. She was an alcoholic and refused to see a Dr until it was too late to save herself. She wouldn't leave her house the last few months before she died because she knew she'd be asked if she was pregnant every time. She was very skinny otherwise.

There are many reasons not to ask a woman about it. She may have a medical problem and doesn't want to have to explain it. She may have just had a miscarriage or have found out that the baby's life isn't viable. It totally outweighs any benefit of asking without knowing the situation ahead of time.

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Fwamingdwagon84 t1_jcraqqp wrote

It particularly sucks because I work customer service, so I can't say exactly what I want to these people. I always hit them with the ole "im not pregnant" and enjoy the horrified looks on their/the rest of their party's faces though.

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SequinSquirrel t1_jcr6fcm wrote

I was asked "So are you getting much morning sickness?" after wearing a dress with ruching across the midsection. I was not pregnant and never wore that dress again. :(

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Dez2011 t1_jcsexy9 wrote

I had a similar shirt and was wearing it BOTH times when I was asked. I carry a lot of my weight in the torso and thought that style of shirt was a fix for my problem. One of those times I was target shooting at an outdoor gun range with a male friend and this redneck woman collecting people's brass asked me if I was pregnant. I said No. Then she said: Well, did you USED to be pregnant? I'd been was reloading when she'd walked up and I looked at my friend and joked "Accidents happen". The woman finally got the point and scurried back up to the long gun range, lol.

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child_of_eris t1_jcrgmym wrote

I was wearing a shirt with what is probably similar ruching. The customer at my register was purchasing baby clothes for her soon to be granddaughter, looked at me and said "You must be due pretty soon too!"

The look on her face when I said "Nope. I'm not pregnant, just fat" was hilarious.

I still went and gave that shirt to my roommate.

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