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AbyssalKitten t1_j7pvx5c wrote

Dear lord, can a single one of these replies actually consider that a girl /may not want/ to see the fact that her boyfriend looks at half naked women on Instagram /any time he opens the app./ your feed on there is DIRECTLY affected by what you’re looking at/clicking on/liking/whatever. A girl doesn’t have to be insecure or a prude to not want to see her boyfriends insta filled with other women?? Half of y’all wouldn’t even be okay with your girl’s Instagram being filled with half naked men either, while still calling the girls who do care “insecure” for caring about such things. Every relationship is different, in some this is perfectly okay, and some it’s off limits. In some relationships, girls will send their bfs pictures of hot women lmao. But it’s up for you AND your partner to decide those things. Not just for you to act like it’s fine and she should just be cool with it. Those things are to be discussed if they come up, and your partner’s feelings SHOULD matter. No matter how important looking at Instagram models is for you. Jfc.

ETA: there is absolutely nothing wrong with consuming adult content online/looking at sexy ladies on the internet/whatever. But relationships have boundaries, and there’s a time and place for everything. If for your partner, that time and place is NOT in front of them, that should be respected! And if they don’t like seeing it on Instagram every time you open the app, that’s a conversation to be had with them. :)

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[deleted] OP t1_j7q9lg8 wrote

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GsTSaien t1_j7s3fxt wrote

Good on you for learning from it. I personally do not buy the "just forgot" excuse, because even if it is true it is just not good enough. Being better going forward is all you should do.

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sjlplat t1_j82n0j5 wrote

> Half of y’all wouldn’t even be okay with your girl’s Instagram being filled with half naked men either

I'd be one of the other half. It doesn't matter to me who my wife finds attractive or chooses to look at. Attraction is a natural part of being human.

IMHO, a desire to control your partner's behavior is an act of insecurity -- also a natural part of being human. Everyone has their limits in some way, shape, or form. The key is to have a mutual understanding and respect for what those limits are.

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