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FriendoftheDork t1_j9z50wd wrote

OK I'm pretty tolerant on gay marriage and people being who they are, but 2 ravioli on a lettuce leaf would probably upset me as well.

(ok joking but really why not serve some filling food as well? If the guests have to go to get a hot dog or burger after, is that a good thing?)

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seasamgo t1_ja01c95 wrote

Bruh I'm not even joking, I'd be so mad lmao. There were no fuck ups here, beyond planning to force guests through an expensive all day event and then feed them a rabbit sized meal. Idk about this though:

>She's completely out of her mind and I don't know how to stop her

OP needs to see the light because fiancée sure is not the one out of their mind.

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Debaser626 t1_ja0flua wrote

I personally don’t get the “huge, long-ass, and expensive” wedding thing.

No one likes them… except for the people charging for services and space, the couple and maybe the parents of the couple.

I’ve been to a few of these and they are just horrible. I don’t care that you rented a horse drawn carriage and 20 doves, but it’s like 90 degrees outside and now everyone has to sit around and wait because it’s gonna rain for the next hour.

I love going to backyard weddings. There’s friends/family… maybe a 10 minute ceremony and then you hang out for several hours and leave the happy couple to their future lives.

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seasamgo t1_ja0k5vz wrote

I feel you. I do get why some of the people getting married might like that. Maybe it's their natural preference, maybe it's just what they imagined due to having it marketed to them since an early age, but everyone has their own desires. I even enjoy being at some those weddings if they were planned in ways that make them enjoyable for guests (i.e. not a fly-to destination wedding at the equator during the most humid season and with peak sun).

But mostly I think they're just a flex and kind of annoying.

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tke494 t1_ja110af wrote

I kind of think it's just because it's pretty, etc. Now, it's nice for Instagram, etc. In more classic terms, it makes for a nice visual memory of a day. But, it sounds like in practice, a lot of the memory of the day would be about the arranging of complicated things that often go wrong.

My wedding was just signing some paperwork at the Family registration center(Taiwan). My wife had had a traditional wedding with her ex. Not fun. Mostly just a chance for her FIL to do business.

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Pame_in_reddit t1_ja18myq wrote

Weddings were the best time for me when I was little and we planned to make it the same for the children that were invited. Seeing them running around, playing, surrounding the chocolate fountain and asking for the fish butterflies on the wedding cake made me happy.

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Leovaderx t1_ja0kn4j wrote

It depends on region. Some places do 500 snack plates, some places the families compete for the most stupid sized wedding. Some are 7 day long events. There are ways to do it like that properly. Butbsome people plan big and either get lazy or cheap out.

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Debaser626 t1_ja0mnad wrote

Right… in some social circles or cultures it’s a part of a long tradition and is fully expected and welcomed.

When I got married we had (between savings and what was gifted by family to spend on our marriage celebration) about 20k.

We spent about 5k on the wedding (attire and rings included) and the rest on the Honeymoon.

The ceremony was on the beach totaling 30 minutes, and then a reception at a nearby restaurant.

We had people have the option of RSVP’ing to one or the other or both.

We were both on the same page about doing a quick ceremony and spending the bulk on the Honeymoon… 10 years later, it was and still is the best “vacation” I ever had.

No financial worries about spending and having a bunch of expensive random experiences…like getting a penthouse suite at a 5-star hotel for one of our nights there (and then going back to the cozy B&B for the rest of the trip) just to see what that was like once in our lives.

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hmbritt t1_ja1u98i wrote

I had a backyard wedding, and probably a 10 minute ceremony like you just mentioned. Tons of food, alcohol and music. It seemed like everyone had a blast and stayed pretty late. We had people there till midnight.

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bedrooms-ds t1_ja3gwtd wrote

I always feel it weird that my generation is in a financial crisis, yet spends money worth a car or two on a wedding. I mean, if the same money went to investment it'd be a better marriage preparation.

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Pame_in_reddit t1_ja17a1z wrote

Right? I feel specially proud that at my wedding only one guest managed to taste everything. People complained for a week that they couldn’t eat the lamb (served at ~midnight) or the soup because they had stuffed with the desserts. People saying that they couldn’t enjoy the dinner because they ate too much at the cocktail. People saying that they missed the chocolate fountain because they only had a little space left for the wedding cake.

I agree with the father completely, if people are giving you their time you give them choices.

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grubas t1_ja1vfy2 wrote

The one wedding we attended like that was a legit nightmare. Everybody was dealing with indigestion and the afterparty was effectively people finding chairs and panting heavily.

We had more than enough food but people were running back to their tables for food cause everybody was dancing.

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FromThe732 t1_j9zyyh4 wrote

My cousin did this at her wedding. My sister and I skipped the afterparty and went to a diner because we were still hungry.

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Leovaderx t1_ja0k52g wrote

There is a time and place for everything. Fast wedding no food? Sure, just warn me. Only snacks and fast? No problem.

But if its a proper wedding, expectation range is: leave stuffed to 5 days straight eating contest, depending on where its happening.

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darkcomet222 t1_ja007hf wrote

Look, if you have ravioli, you may reveal the formuoli…this needs to be a wedding, not a funeral.

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Wahots t1_ja2eha4 wrote

If this being served, I'd respectfully ask the bride and bride if I could lend a hand and then kick in the door 45 minutes later with giant buckets of KFC to save the day. If the father in law wants to leave stuffed, he shall leave stuffed, goddammit.

Consider the KFC an extra wedding gift on me xD

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