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[deleted] OP t1_j9opsc0 wrote

Reply to comment by xXxWarspite in TIFU by hurting my soulmate by [deleted]

I know it isn’t, that’s why I’m seeking therapy, the only hope I have is because she said I was the right person. I want to heal and find happiness in other things, but it’s hard when the only way I found happiness was with her.

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xXxWarspite t1_j9osu3u wrote

I know man. I was in a relationship that I was kind of dependent on her for my happiness. I realized how fucked up it was of me to force her into that role whether I meant to or not. Trust me, it’s better to love someone after you’ve healed yourself

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[deleted] OP t1_j9ov34h wrote

I only told my fuck ups in the story to get advice on what I can do better next time if there is one. Did you get back together with her at all ?

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xXxWarspite t1_j9owssm wrote

Well my story doesn’t have a happy ending I’m afraid. We stayed together but she ended up cheating on me. Now I’m not at all saying that’s how yours will end. But you do have to understand that the things that you, just like me, did and said to them hurt them more than we will probably ever know and there’s a chance the wounds that we inflicted on them may never fully heal. All we can really do is learn from our past, fix our mistakes, and better ourselves. We have to be better than we were. The sad truth is, you may never get her back and if you do she may never truly trust you again. But whether you and her work out or not, you’ll be a better man and at the end of the day improving ourselves and learning from our past is all we can really do

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Vast_Reflection t1_j9pi9ik wrote

Yeah I was with someone whose only happiness came from me. It ended with us breaking up. We’re friendly now but I know the second I find someone else things are going to go haywire because he never got over me. That’s not romantic. It’s really hard for both of us.

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