greenmachine11235 t1_jaayyop wrote on February 28, 2023 at 3:01 AM

Reply to comment by Orphylia in TIFU Update: I accused my boyfriend of cheating on me with his dead husband by TIFUWife2

For some people talking about a trauma is akin to reliving the event so they try not to talk about it. It's not a good coping mechanism by any means but it's an understandable one.

Orphylia t1_jab0hz3 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 3:13 AM

I can 100% understand not wanting to "relive" it, but OP's husband said that talking about it would make him feel like he's forgetting his husband. I don't think that's really the same thing. Someone else gave a more plausible explanation, but grief convinces people of all kinds of things, so ultimately, it's probably useless attempting to reason through something like this coming from someone I don't know.