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Empire2k5 t1_jaatsh8 wrote

I was in part 1. Im a little lost on the "by telling you about it, I would be forgetting him" part. Wouldn't that be in a way remembering him, by talking about it? But gl none the less.

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PushingMyLimit t1_jab3ymp wrote

I think because acknowledging it to the person, in his mind, would be making “moving on” a reality. It would mean it was really in the past. Grief can absolutely haunt the way someone perceives the world, even in ways that seem silly after.

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Empire2k5 t1_jab4nrr wrote

Makes sense. I haven't really lost anyone serious in my life, but you do have to eventually move on. Talking about it with a loved one might even help with that. And she also mentioned in previous thread, that they hold a memorial every year for him, that's what caused this. So aren't totally forgetting about him in that way either.

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NukeWarz t1_jabsg90 wrote

You never really move on. You just make it smaller until you can carry it without falling.

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silent_cat t1_jad9uks wrote

I think what OP can do is plan some "remembering" moments. Like, a special day a year where he remembers the good things. Tells stories, that kind of thing. He dead, he's not competition.

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