Vizcera t1_j9pmc6v wrote on February 23, 2023 at 5:53 PM

Reply to comment by Head-Investigator984 in TIFU because i (M15) scratched a classmate off mine with my nails as a self defense mechanism by [deleted]

First reasonable comment. Obviously made a mistake, and the use of the term self-defense mechanism here makes sense to me. It’s not like they’re trying to justify it by actually calling it self-defense.

edit: it makes "sense" to me in the sense that that was the best term OP could think of at the time. I'm not saying it was actual self-defense in any way.

seasamgo t1_j9q26d5 wrote on February 23, 2023 at 7:31 PM

Escalating verbal conflict to physical conflict is not a self defense mechanism. Crossing the room to kick his table and scratch him out of anger was not a mistake, it was a choice.

It does sound like OP gets this was a fuck up, and both were in the wrong, but the title is still incorrect and downplaying what happened in the comments is dumb.

Vizcera t1_ja4bx6m wrote on February 26, 2023 at 7:17 PM

I made that comment after seeing comment after comment of people stating the obvious: OP fucked up and it wasn't self-defense.

Of course I agree with that, but I just don't see the use in repetitively reminding them they fucked up, because they seem to be well aware of that fact. I hoped people would see my comment and realize OP isn't trying to *justify* what they did. **They just tried to give the most fitting term to their actions.**

Edit: I definitely misused "mistake" in my first comment. However, I'm giving a little extra leniency to a differently-abled 15 year old who clearly is admitting fault for their actions. They develop at different rates, and perhaps this was a lesson that needed to be learned. Does it seem a bit old for you and me to be learning this lesson? Of course, but we're not OP.