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OddMeansToAnEnd t1_ja7lfij wrote

"Hi I have everything I could want and check off all the boxes but I'm not happy cuz I want it all!"

Bro he is opening up to you and it is emotionally, it just doesn't fit your own narrative in your head. You rehearse the scenario playing out over and over again in your head this specific way, so you're now upset because it isn't that. All I hear in this is me me Me me!! Absolute zero consideration for how he feels, his own perspective, accepting him as he is etc. you are immature and childish and now you're pushing him away becuse you're not getting what you want. Grow up or let him go so he can make someone who actually cares about their relationship and not just themselves happy.

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ZeroRozuMagika t1_ja7w9n8 wrote

I have consideration for how he feels, but he won’t talk to me about it.

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OddMeansToAnEnd t1_ja7yzr2 wrote

Here's a question for you.., how sad would the world be if the only great proclamation of love was marriage and nothing else? To limit oneself and one's own love and happiness to the confines of what makes a decent marriage? It sounds as if you're asking for disaster before it even begins.

You should want him to want to marry you, and to want to marry you when he's ready. Not because you're essentially putting an ultimatum upon him. It sounds like, through your own words, he's doing things right and giving you just about everything you need to have a healthy relationship. You're now sabotaging it because you failed to express your own beliefs about marriage up front. If this is how you really felt than that should have been your lead. "I expect marriage." Not "how do you feel About marriage?" As if it's an open discussion, Then get upset it doesn't match your own feelings.

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