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harmonicrain t1_ja7g042 wrote

Reply to comment by Healingmilk in TIFU by realizing I’m in a practical relationship rather than a loving one. by [deleted]

I don't understand why people seem to think betting half your shit you'll stay together is a good thing.

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iAmBalfrog t1_ja7oywz wrote

Because usually those pushing for it have nothing to lose and something to gain.

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powerposepenguin t1_jaa3z78 wrote

Jeez in what time are you living? The sixties? Woman are financially independent for ages now and even make more at a younger age then man. Your idea of society might be what you heard from celebrities drama or of women after marriage, when they decide to work less after having a kid. It's still very commen as a women to be pressured to work less than the husband to take care of the kids, which has been proven in many studies that its killing for salary growth

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iAmBalfrog t1_jabwfqv wrote

According to Census figures (from Forbes), of the 400,000 people in the US receiving Alimony, 3 percent are male, yet 40 percent of households are headed by female breadwinners. This implies that either divorce courts are sexist towards men, or we see more divorces between poorer females and richer males, or in my example, people with less to lose and something to gain.

I don't like the above statistics, i'm not happy with the above statistics, but it's the world we live in as of today. I agree theres been great strives towards gender equality, but we aren't there yet. Nothing you've said disagrees with the fact that these women have less to lose and something to gain.

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ZeroRozuMagika t1_ja80btu wrote

Some women may do that but I’d say that’s a very small minority. Most women, yes the ones wanting marriage, aren’t doing so for financial gain.

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iAmBalfrog t1_ja84lb8 wrote

It's not so much doing it for financial gain, but they typically don't have as large a financial risk.

Now this isn't inherently in the wrong, women do give up opportunities typically to become a SAHP. But there are a lot more stories of men going into debt to fund alimony than the other way round.

There's also plenty of high profile stories where it's hard to believe that say MacKenzie Scott would have earnt $38.3billion had she not been in a relationship with Jeff Bezos, yet marrying him and later divorcing him netted her that worth.

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