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InfiniteCalendar1 t1_j91aomk wrote

Reply to comment by xscumfucx in TIFU by eating a Happy Meal by PatientWillow4

That’s true especially telling a grown adult you think they’re a child or significantly younger than they actually are can be insulting in some contexts especially if implying something about maturity. I remember when I worked in retail a customer said I look 12 when I was 20 at the time and a friend of mine said that’s insulting.

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xscumfucx t1_j91gboj wrote

I don’t get offended by it unless I know what they really mean is “immature” or “stupid” etc.. I’m kinda short + apparently some of the things I wear make me look “immature” or “childish” (possibly because I sometimes shop in the kids’ section of the store...). I was accused of being 12 once too! My bf + I were ordering drinks at the bar + when I ordered the bartender said “aren’t you, like, 12?”. I was at least 22... I’ve also been mistaken for my bf’s daughter on a couple occasions. Idc how old anyone thinks I am unless I’m trying to purchase alcohol + am denied because I don’t have my id on me for whatever reason.

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InfiniteCalendar1 t1_j91ijaj wrote

I don’t get offended either although I had some questions about being perceived as 12 as I usually get mistaken as being between 16-19, but I guess my friend just saw it as an insult. When I was in retail my age got questioned the most because I was working with teens and they were surprised to learn I’m in college.

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last_rights t1_j93228b wrote

I was 28 working retail on a morning shift when a customer asked why I wasn't in school. I told him I graduated. Then he asked why I didn't go to college. I told him I graduated that as well.

He just said "oh", and walked away.

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PatientWillow4 OP t1_j91hnhm wrote

In my background, we're always told to act our age. Being as out there as I've been out there in the recent years would definitely raise some eyebrows and label me "immature" by some people. Also because this was a first impression, I was afraid that I had made the wrong impression, hence the TIFU

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BowzersMom t1_j91o5qf wrote

How important are the opinions of people who would judge you for harmlessly being yourself? Sometimes they matter—an important work client, someone in a position to get you a good job or contract or spot in a program. But this lady? Other people who knew you when you were little but not who you are as an adult? Their prejudices and unkind opinions are none of your business. Keep being you!!

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PatientWillow4 OP t1_j91xpfq wrote

This is exactly how my thinking changed after I graduated high school. I was the typical nerd, always studying and being very harsh on myself. I was afraid of what people thought of me all the time.

Since around 2 years ago, I just thought, fuck it, I'm done. Ofcourse if I'm in a serious situation I act accordingly, but otherwise, I'll continue being a weirdo.

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mode_12 t1_j92b6hn wrote

It’ll get better. I always looked younger than I was and also had a playful personality, and occasionally would hear things about act your age blah blah, or even worse, I don’t want to say someone who looks like my younger brother. Well, now im 39 and people suddenly love the energy, and compliment me on taking care of myself all these years. Funny shift in thinking that propped me up out of nowhere, so look forward to that

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