GsTSaien t1_j9x2nwf wrote on February 25, 2023 at 4:27 AM

Reply to comment by Alittlemoorecheese in TIFU by not telling my partner about my intimate life in the past by HereckMistwalker

If you are still seeing the people you were sexually involved with, that is a variable that your partner should know. It is not your call to decide if your partner is ok with that or not. You can break it off with someone who is not ok with it if you want, but you don't get to decide ir they are comfortable with that or not. By not telling them something important like that, you rob your partner of their right to decide how they feel about that.

Alittlemoorecheese t1_ja0ff6i wrote on February 25, 2023 at 10:26 PM

There are two people in a relationship. Things can remain "personal" to either party in the relationship until the relationship develops further. This includes sexual history.

"Getting to know you" is not the same as "You must tell me everything now." Not to mention you would be basing everything on something you arbitrarily made up and are expecting someone to guess what that made-up thing is. Crimes? Work history? Dental records?

People aren't stock lined up for you to evaluate.